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ANY LAWYERS who know about divorce or anyone who can help?

ok i think its time to end my marriage for several reasons all leading back to one thing he is an alcoholic... anyway heres the deal we both make nothing.. he makes 12 per hr i make 10 per hr so we are barely making it now so heres the thing we bought some land a few yrs ago when we had some money its paid for... we live in a house not on that land that we still owe on neither one of us can afford to keep the house alone and we have tried to sell it and no one has been interested in over a yr now. i would love to have the property and a trayler to live in and he can have the house i dont care but he cant afford it either so how will this work? will we have to file bank rupsy and will we have to sell the property too? that is the only way i can make it on my own with my son is if i can live in the trailer on the property unles we move into an apartment thats subsidised and i cant do that to my son we would have to give up his dogs too someone please tell me what my options are...

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April so sorry i didnt use my proper english i was in a hurry before he walked in the room and besides i didnt realize this was for a grade... that being said alot of what you said made sense but you also need to watch your grammer a period is one . not ...... just for starters there were a few other mistakes in your answer but i am not going to waste my time pointing them out to you. and i never said i worked part time i work from 4:30 am to 3:30pm . and i agree i need to go back to school but im srry i am not going to waste the few years i have with my son away from him while he sits at home alone or is out getting into trouble because im not here to watch him. in case you didnt read my husband is an alcoholic and that makes my son 90% more likely to also become one and i am not going to risk that. yea i may not be the best at english but i am a darn good mom to my kids. btw before you wonder my daughter is 18 and on her own.

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Ok bankruptcy is out of the picture if you want to keep eitherv the house or property. In a divorce you will probably be awarded custody of your son so you will automatically get the house with child support. Chances are since you both make about the same amount you probably wont get spousal support. How you would afford it would be up to you. Maybe a second job or a roommate to help pay the bills. If it werent for yourson, you two would probably end up selling both, but thats not possible here. He might end up getting the property but thats the Judges decision. The Judge is going to base his decision largely on the best interest of your son and is not going to make him homeless regardlessof what you two want unless you two can compromise a settlement outside of the court. No easy way to determine what exactly will happen here due to possible other variables involved here. Good luck

    Source(s): Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Pyschology
  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

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    RE ANY LAWYERS who know about divorce or anyone who can help?

    ok i think its time to end my marriage for several reasons all leading back to one thing he is an alcoholic... anyway heres the deal we both make nothing.. he makes 12 per hr i make 10 per hr so we are barely making it now so heres the thing we bought some land a few yrs ago when we had some money its paid for... we live in a house not on that land that we still owe on neither one of us can afford to keep the house alone and we have tried to sell it and no one has been interested in over a yr now. i would love to have the property and a trayler to live in and he can have the house i dont care but he cant afford it either so how will this work? will we have to file bank rupsy and will we have to sell the property too? that is the only way i can make it on my own with my son is if i can live in the trailer on the property unles we move into an apartment thats subsidised and i cant do that to my son we would have to give up his dogs too someone please tell me what my options are...

  • April
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    (Tough to read this.... your command of English is really poor. I can see why your make only $10 per hour... Sentences begin with capital letters, end with periods, and the word "i" doesn't exist... but here goes anyway. I hope you read better than you write.)

    Since you have no estate, order papers off of the internet. Fill them out, file them at your court house. The filing fee is usually in the range of + or - $15. If when you get them, they are too mysterious for you, look in the Yellow Pages for Attorney - Divorce, mediating. You can both use the same attorney. Agree on who gets what. The less time he spends with you the less it costs, usually in the area of $75-300 depending on the attorney, and the state.

    (Agree that you will lower the property price so that you can get it sold, and agree on how you will split it, before seeing an attorney...... Something is worth what someone is willing to pay for it when you need to sell it. If you want it gone, it can be. You don't have lots of options, hon, because of your financial situation.)

    And before I go on, as my dad often said, a divorce is a nice thing if you can afford it.

    It may be that you cannot afford it, no matter how creative you get financially. In this case, you and he agree to be roommates, yet divorce and live in the same house. When/if things get better financially, and you go back to school, or get into a training program that pays you more money, then you each can go your separate ways.... Lots of people divorce this way, each helping the other until they can leave. This, of course, assumes that you each can stand the sight of the other. If you two are at the point of throwing things, then, your standard of living will decrease, until you, working full time AND going back to school allows you to better your financial position. Good luck, hon.

    In your place, I'd leave the area, get a better job in a bigger city, get back into school, EVEN if I had to live with my son in a shelter for awhile until I could qualify for those jobs that paid well.

    Source(s): Been there... worked full time AND carried a full load in school...... Got up at 4:00 am to do home work, left for work at 7:30, worked until 3:00pm, met my first class at 4:00pm, and classes were over at 9:30pm. On the weekdays never saw my house in the sunlight. did this for years -- summers too. Studied weekends.. And in the end???? Got to retire at 48, so don't tell me it can't be done. It can, hon, it can. It just takes a lot of guts.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You seriously need to talk to an attorney. He/she can draft an MSA (marital settlement agreement) to this effect if your husband is really that agreeable. If not, you may have to sell both properties to pay the community debt of the current house and whatever is left over will be divided. There are a few other factors that will go into the equation.

    You should be able to find an attorney who will work at a reduced fee or pro bono (for free). Look up your local county or state bar association.

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  • lowIQ
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    sell both properties and split the proceeds.

    clean split, less arguments.

  • 1 decade ago

    CONTACT A REAL ATTORNEY. Your divorce will be complicated.

    Source(s): Arizona legal assistant. Family law 15 years.
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