My husband is coming home from Iraq in a couple of months, best way to help him when he returns?

First off, OPSEC. Don't go blabbing where your husband is all over the Internet.

Second, just be patient. He will probably be a little unsure about what to do around the house. By all means have a nice dinner just for the two of you, maybe plan a picnic if you have kids. Aside from that DO NOT do anything especially different. Just be patient.

My husband is deploying in the subsequent couple weeks and that i'm going domicile. My situation is somewhat distinctive. i'm in Germany far removed from my kinfolk and maximum of my friends right here have already long previous domicile. My suggestion to you is go everywhere you have the main love and help. i understand the way you experience with feeling ignored. I lived right here in Germany for extra advantageous than a twelve months in the past I had a single pal! (NO KIDDING!) i'm a very uncomplicated going uncomplicated to get alongside with person. My FRG is great I basically did no longer visit any conferences on the start. My FRG chief is a SSG spouse however and not an officers spouse and that i think of that I fit in somewhat extra advantageous than maximum enlisted squaddies better halves do in maximum FRG's. in case you do plan on staying there i might propose perhaps getting a job (in case you're actually not working already.) That way you would be able to make friends that way you could have an excellent determination of friends. in spite of you decide on on I wish you success!

I'm not married, but I've been deployed (not to Iraq). I don't know all the info you are looking for, but if you don't find any quality answers in this site, then your best bet is to talk to your base's family services. I'm not sure what the Army calls it, but it is a service that helps the family and soldier. They would have information that will be useful, and sometimes they help with the transition. If anything, you should be able to come in contact with other spouses that were or are in your situation.

As a co-worker, and a hired contractor to provide job duties for a 44-yr-old soldier while he was stationed at Camp Anaconda in Iraq...

The entire time he was away I treated the opportunity as a great privilege.

People at the company sent him a good sized care package each month, in return he wrote letters and others wrote back to him.

He returned with a back injury and wasn't capable of returning to work until his unit was released...

In the mean time he'd appear at work just to say hi to people, friends and co-workers and about two months later he finally had people leave him alone long enough to breathe.

A month later I greeted him and introduced myself even though he already knew me.

My words to him were, "While you've been gone the things I've done to keep your job in order were in the back of my mind while I concentrated on a far more important task. Praying for your family and friends while they prayed for you. I may seem like a replacement worker to some, but I can't measure up to the mark you've left in this small community. Not a soul prayed harder than I for your return. While I'll miss having a job shortly, it's been honorable, and very memorable to learn that in some places here on earth, people honestly treasure you more as a wonderful, gracious man, than a returning soldier."

Only words, but he marveled at my perception and thanked me for welcoming him back home so kindly.

About a week later he thanked me again for reminding him about why and how much he loved being home.

I guess others hadn't put it to him quite like that... :)

Then he saw six more boxed of Hot Tamales waiting for him at his desk. It was something on his wish-list to be sent and never knew where they came from! Ha!

Don't ask a bunch of questions.

A quiet hand on his arm is worth a thousand words.

As for your husband let him talk it out. I didnt ask my husband many questions I let him tell me what he needed to tell me. Sorry you had to have ******* reply.

Love him and give him a little space. Don't bug him about painting the bedroom or taking out the trash...Tell him thanks for serving from me!!!

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your husband has probably been playing "Camp Anaconda" with all of his soldier buddies the whole time he's been gone. He's nervous about coming home because he doesn't know how you'll react when he wakes up screaming "Private Ryan, I love your anaconda!" Just remember, it's only "freaky" the first time...after that, it's just "normal"!

3 BJs a day oughta do it.

Introduce him to Jody, who's been taking care of you on the homefrount.