Husband writing letter to previous love?

That is just wrong, that makes me really fired up. That he could be so low, to have no consideration for your feelings or the love you think you have. I am totally against you staying with him, you should get away from him. The only thing he seems to be good at is bringin you down. Best of wishes.

That would really hit a sore spot. I am sorry that you had to go through that. I can imagine what is going through your head, you probably hurt becuse you feel as if you are second.You should be second to no one in the eyes of your husband. Regardless to rather or not she would take him back the fact is that the man you have given your life to is professing his undying love to another woman! Feelings dont go away without some effort from the person who has them, but they do go away. It isnt right for him to reminissce about a long forgotten relationship, his focus should be purely on you. You have given him alot. not only do you do what a woman is supposed to do, the cooking cleaning all the good stuff, but you also swallowed your pride and let him back into your life. You learned to trust him again and I know that is alot of work, he is showing you no appreciation for any of it and given all you have done you more than deserve it. I think he needs some help.maybe therapy. He has to understand that he needs to live each day appreciating what he has been blessed with rather than worrying about things that have no meaning in the life the two of you created together. You should have been able to put that to rest years ago and never had to think about it again. I hope it works out for you you sound like a kind understanding person who deserves a whole lot of respect.

I think the idea of a love letter is cute. I've given my husband love notes before while he was on his way out the door to go to work and I got the same reaction-- not because he doesn't love me, but because it was a bad time. But I always get a phone call a little later from him, telling me that my little note is brightening his day. Don't read too much into it. Besides, if you wrote him a love letter, then it should be because you wanted to make HIM happy, not as a tool to get praises and affection.... I'm not trying to be mean at all, I swear! But I didn't know how else to better word that. Part of marriage is that sometimes loving gestures aren't returned right away (and sometimes not at all). Especially if your spouse is busy or distracted like you say your husband was. And to answer your question "it" never slips away. People make decisions and act (or don't act) and say things (or don't say things) to protect and strengthen their marriages and eventually become bitter and resentful to the other person. But if you love him and care about his happiness and he does the same for you, then the two of you have nothing to worry about. =) Good luck!

Some people can grip our hearts in such a way that they never leave us completely. That's not to say we're going to act on it. But the fact that she probably wouldn't take him back is not really a "bright side" to look on either. It hurts you. I'd confront him that I know about the letter...and let him know how I feel. Otherwise, this will eat away at you forever, and every time you look at him, you'll wonder if he's thinking of her. I'd tell him I didn't wanna be "second best". He's lucky you gave him a second chance, and for him to go write her a letter for ANY reason was a total lack of respect.

my heart would break if i was in that situation. Of course you know he had NO business writing to her. If it were my husband he would certainly pay for it. THat was wrong on his part. I'm not saying he doesnt love you and i'm not trying to stick up for the guy, because he only know what his intensions were. but we cant always help the way we feel. I dont think youre stupid.

SOmtimes its hard to get over someone if that relationship ended with no "closure". Especially if you werent the one ending the relationship, it could be hard to move on emotionally. Maybe thats where he's at.

He's been taking you for granted, the only thing I would advise is to confront him with the letter and see what his answer is.

You deserve to be no. one in someone's life. , and its likely he's just forgotten or just slipped into bad habits, maybe a reminder is all he needs, but its not fair to you to be treated as second best.

Demand to be the first in the relationship, and if he refuses then get out of there. Its not fair to you to have him emotionally cheating on you and not even feeling guilty about it.

My 1st husband was the same way, he kept in touch with his "other fiance'" It broke my heart too, in the end I left him, for many reason's but the biggest one was, I wasn't the most important girl in his heart - this other girl was.

I am now married to a wonderful guy who would NEVER put another girl before me, it feels great to be the one and only girl in his heart! I will NEVER be 2nd again

He should have left you alone and never married you feeling like that.I feel so sorry for you. What he done to you was very wrong. I think I would have to go talk to somebody on a proffesional level to direct me in an approrpriate response to him.

You have to be feeling worthless .I don't like your husband hes a using loser .Why did you ever take him back . You need to get somebody that can love you back and drop the loser . There's allot of guys out there looking for a good woman like you

I would be so outta there. I know this may sound harsh but, it looks like he chose you as second best. I would have never let him back into my life to begin with if I were you. but, such as it is and now you have to decide if you want to always be his second choice. Unfortunately that is how it is for him. As yourself this: Can he EVER convince you that you will always mean more to him than her?