Am I Such An Evil Person?

you are not an evil person at all. You know you can't provide the life you want this baby to have so you are showing him/her the most love possible by giving him/her to a family that so wants a baby and can provide the type of life you want for the baby. If others treat you nasty when you explain this then walk away. You are the only one that you have to justify anything to. Don't give these people the time of day. You know you are doing what is best for your baby and that is all that matters!

Hey sweetie, you are doing just fine. It is such a hot topic these days about abortion and all that stuff. You will find, however, that if you give your baby up for adoption, which is quite commendable considering you could have had the baby aborted, that you will and are doing such a nice thing for yourself and for someone else. Dont forget that there are people out there ( myself included) that just cant have children and are having to adopt. Is this your first pregnancy? How old are you? You might change your mind at the last minute and decide to keep the baby. This is something you have 9 months to think about. I truly wish you the best of lucky sweetie, and remember as well , this is NOT the end of the world. In fact, you are bringing a life into this world . As for those people, just smile at them and tell them sweetly that only time will tell. No need to go into detail about how you are putting the baby up for adoption.. It is none of their business. Just smile and say you are happy and just be vague with your answers. If they ask too many questions, just tell them it is too personal of a matter and you dont want to discuss it. Good Luck sweetie! I really wish you well.....Your friend out there in Yahoo land, Lauren Scott..............Write me anytime you need a lift at laurelf55@earthlink.net. bye honey. and take care...........

I applaud your decision. I can't believe people would be nasty, I'm so sorry. I would not bother explaining anything to anyone. My rule of thumb about anything that comes out of my mouth is this..."Does this person really need to know?" if the answer is no, then when someone asks you a personal question like what is the baby's name going to be? or have you gotten a crib yet? whatever, just say "oh that's still undecided", or simply "no" . You don't have to smile and pretend everything great, but really why do these people need an explanation? Just walk away... you are doing what is best for your baby and that is the only thing that matters.

Stay strong and the best of wishes to you.

Well first of all, I think you are a very courageous and caring person to not only have the baby, but give it up for adoption so that a loving stable couple can have a baby of their own. You are very smart to do that! As far as people asking about the baby, I understand how nosey people can get. I would just keep answers simple if they are just asking about your due date, etc. But if they start getting too nosey, you have the right to end the conversation. You don't have to explain anything to them. Or if you wish, you can simply say, "This pregnancy wasn't planned, and now I'm going to do the right thing and give the baby up for adoption. I care about the baby enough to give him/her the best possible life." Anyone that gets mad at you is an idiot. If I met a girl who gave me that answer, I would say "Good for you!" But that's just me. Good luck hun, I hope the birth goes well and that you find a great couple to adopt the baby. :)

Its none of anyones business what you do with your baby. Don't feel like you owe them an explanation for what you do with your life. Just keep your business to yourself and if they don't ask, don't offer any information. If they ask, politely tell them its personal and you would rather not discuss it. Personally I am proud of you for stepping up giving some loving family that can not have children the ability to have a child of their own.

Do not feel down on yourself, this does not make you a bad person. You are a better person for not aborting this child and giving it a chance to have great life with a loving family.

You can still smile & tell them its a personal matter, and everything will still be normal, because in your heart you know you are doing the right thing. People are cruel and often don't look at the good that comes out of things like this. Just remember you are a great person!!! Hope this helps....

Well... only YOU know what is right, and what you can handle. Obviously you've decided to put the child up for adoption, and this isn't an uncommon situation. Look at it this way - at least you're giving the baby a chance at life (unlike the women who have abortions)... hopefully he/she will end up in a great home and lead a great life. Whether or not everyone else approves of it - that is YOUR life and ultimately YOUR decision. Try not to look at the negative side of things... look at the positive side and know that you making a decision that is best for you and your baby. Giving a baby up for adoption probably won't be an easy thing... but sometimes situations get difficult and we have to do things we don't really want to act on. Keep your head strong and just hope for the best... things will turn out okay. :) Good luck.

Congratulations on Making such a hard decision. You did what was right for you. You owe no one else an explanation. You child will have a great life thanks to your sacrifice. I would not volunteer the information and when people ask questions just smile and say ... I am not sure why you are asking that.

All the best. Make a little keep sake and write a letter to your baby and ask the adoptive parents to give it to your child when it is 18. That way it will know you loved it and may or may not contact you. You will feel more secure..I pray for you and your baby

You're not the evil person. Anyone who could be so cruel and cold to you when you tell them that you are giving up your baby is being evil. I feel so bad for you that people are treating you that way. You are doing the right thing, if you feel that you are not in the right place in your life to raise a child. There's nothing wrong with your decision and you are giving some couple such joy, who probably couldn't have kids themselves. And you are going to be giving your child the life that you are not yet ready to provide. You sound like a great, level headed person and I'm sure you will make a wonderful mother someday, when and if the time is right in your life.

Ignore those people. They're stupid -- not you!

No you are not evil, in fact you are the opposite. If you don't want a baby or feel you couldn't take care of it the way you should then it is very smart, very responsible, and unselfish to give the baby to some one who will love it and give it everything it needs. I have been trying to have a baby for seven years and can not, I now want to adopt, but have not found the right situation yet. so I know exactly what it would feel like to have a small blessing like you are giving someone. I commend you and send you my blessings. As for other people what they think should not matter, they are not in your shoes. God bless.

Honestly the decision is up to you. Make a list of the pros and cons of this decision. I got pregnant at 17 and i thought about having an abortion, and then about giving the baby up for adoption. I couldn't imaging having a baby and rasing one so young, and not being married. Well, i ended up keeping my baby and it was the best decision of my life. She is now almost 5 yrs old. She will be starting kindergarden this year. The man i married said he noticed me because he saw how wonderful i was with my daughter.. she was 14months at the time. So it's funny how things work out. She basically brought my husband and i together. Things work out now matter the decision you make. You will get though things even though you may think they will be hard.