if a husband needs sex more then he is getting... is it cheating to get it elsewhere......?

Its not fair and fair isnt even the word but its also not fair to constantly leave your partner hanging.

from what I hear, MOST, almost all men cheat regardless of what they get or dont get at home. But, not all do. My husband is home every single night and never ever goes out after work or w/o me. I also know of three other men that do not cheat and there wives are less than ideal in certain ways. All three are nags for one and I know one for sure dosnet give him sex and he is always home (my ex-friend). Some men will suffer in silence because they dont agree with chetaing BUT the day will inevitably come where he will have to have sex, some women say no for very long periods(just as selfish and unfair) and if he dosnet cheat, the marriage will not be as strong as it was. We all have needs and using my hubby as an example, his needs are incredibly often. lol

A simple answer No it's not fair to you. This doesn't permit you to go out and do the same thing of course. It's cheating anytime you go elsewhere with or without your knowledge and permission (ie swinging, swapping etc.). No it's not fair especially if he didn't give you a chance to work things out. It maybe just needs for you two to discuss if there is sexual tension there and what could be down to rectify this before going outside of your relationship or marriage. Communication is the key to a healthy long-lasting love. Time to talk.

Yes, as you already know it IS cheating and when is cheating fair? The best thing to do is sit down and talk to your wife and explain how you feel. I'll bet you'll find that she has some needs and concerns that YOU are not meeting. Honesty is often painful but the wisest course of action. Cheating will destroy your family and your integrity. It is a good thing you paused to ask this question hopefully before you acted.

Fair? There's no answer to that, really.

Someone who was having sex a few times a week and wanted more, I wouldn't have a lot of sympathy for.

Someone having sex 2-5 times a year and wanted more, I'd have a lot of sympathy for.

Having sex with someone outside of marriage breaks your vows. So does divorce. Remember the 'till death to us part' bit? Completely ignoring your partner's needs is also wrong.

I refuse to judge someone, whose spouse has basically decided to stop being a full spouse, whether they decide to divorce or stay and seek sex elsewhere. Though if there are no kids, I don't know why you wouldn't divorce. But with kids, I can certainly see why you would try to stay together.

Cheating is NEVER fair or acceptable.

He can always masturbate if he is not getting enough sexual gratification, but lack of sex at home (I'm assuming he gets it at least SOMETIMES) is no excuse to poking around in places he definitely does NOT belong. That is a clear breaking of the marriage vows...(you know the part about for better or for worse??)

Yes it's cheating...and no it's not fair. If he wanted to be with 2 or more women he should have remained single and unattached to a serious relationship

no i will under no circumstances forgive a cheater. you're putting me in possibility for such loads of such issues as AIDS. yet when you're unhappy with your spouse you want to leave. in accordance for your description my husband might want to of been cheated on me. I do no cooking he does each and each and every of the cooking and that i do not clean he takes care of a large element of that as well. yet I wash each and each and every of the garments because i don't love the way he does it. Now sex he receives each and each and every of the time nicely no longer now because i'm on mattress relax i'm 34 weeks pregnant and that i'm exhibiting warning signs of preterm complicated artwork yet we get it in the different time. notwithstanding it extremely is our residing house and we both artwork so i'm no longer a lazy stay at residing house mom yet my husband works nights so when I get residing house the stuff is finished.

Yes i would say so if he's not getting enough sex then it's up to you his wife to handle that and take care of ya man so you don't have to worry about someone else doing it but if he goes out somewhere else to get it then it's cheating anyway you look at it

No, it's not fair, first to the wife, and second why would you want some non self respecting woman or man, that don't care that your married. thats total BS maybe you should take care of some of your own needs, you don't destroy your marriage because you're feeling a little extra horney!!!!!

No, it isn't fair. Talk to your wife about it - if she refuses, then perhaps divorce is the answer. It's better than adultery.