is my ex trying to get back at me?

He's your EX not your present! Why should you care who he is seeing? The only one you have to worry about is "Chris." If you love "Chris" enough to marry him then "Mr. Honey-I-Love-you-but..." should be just a dim memory - a very dim memory. Your only concern about "pay-backs" should be that, if you are the custodial parent of your son, the guy who never raised the toilet seat for 16 years gets the monthly child-support payments to you on time.

Pay you back for what? Hes been perfectly happy so long as you were unattached - but now that thats being threatened by someone else, he now wants you again?!?!? Hes playing games with your head is what hes doing...and youre letting him! Im sure hes been thinking that for the last 16 yrs his relationship with the other girl just served to tee you off. Now that he sees it doesnt any more, hes ready to jump back on the bandwagon. Hes using you as an excuse to the other girl. Why do you think he hasnt gotten more serious with her after all these years. Actually, she must be an idiot to put up with his crap as well. I understand your son needs to maintain a relationship with his father, but he doesnt need to maintain a relationship with you! Dont feed his frenzy...just ignore him and he'll eventually go away.

First of all, if he cared ANYTHING about you, even if you were not going to end up together, he should be the better person and be happy for you. Also, your engagement is just an excuse for an old jump in the hay for ole time sake. He wouldn't touch me with a 1 foot pole, and there would be nothing he could say to me. He's not even being a friend for any matter. If anyone is getting paid back is him. Chris has you, he doesn't.

He is just alone. The reason he stopped cheating after two years is he knew it was wrong and wanted you instead. He is not getting back at you, it is just that he needed someone to hold onto be with through good times and bad and the girl was his closest thing to a loving companion since you met Chris. He was broken and desperate for someone, anyone. So he hooked back up with her so he could not be lonely.

Do the either of you know what Love is?

When two people (you and he....he and her...whichever) truly Love each other... than you would put that person before your own needs. Needs.... the need to know your in a committed relationship and vows are honored even when the other is not present. There is no getting even in Love, there is no doubt, to the point that one would seek the company of another....because "they will do for now".

Love is....

Love is patient; love is kind; it does not envy; it does not boast; it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking; it is not easily angered; it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

If you love "chris", who cares what your ex is doing and with who? He has taken advantage of your feelings for him for 16 years. It's way past time to move on. I don't think he loves anyone but himself and wants the easiest way to satisfy himself. Be glad you are going to finally build a real life with someone willing to make a committment to you! Best of everything to you!

He feels less manly because you've moved on and he hasn't. In order to make himself feel better, he is trying to get with someone else. If he still loved you, he'd probably try to be getting YOU back, so most likely he is trying to get under your skin. Talk to him because he's the father of your kids but ignore the bullcrap!!

He's doing it so that you don't out do him. They say that success is the best revenge and it is. He sees that you are doing well, in love, happy and it's not with him. It's basically him trying to keep up with the Jones', so to speak! I went through this, too. Good luck to you! Congrats on getting married!

do no longer have faith him and stay away! He does not comprehend what he needs and he rather hasn't made up his techniques yet. this may be his way of attempting to be cool approximately it, yet he's rather making a fool of himself. call his bluff stat!

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