46 and want to fall pregnant!?

No, i dont think its selfish at all. You will be a great mum as you want it badly and what child could wish for more - to be loved and looked after. I recommend it highly - its the best feeling in the whole world.

We can't help when we start wanting to ahve kids. Ideally, the best time is aged 14 !!!! but what kind of mums do 14 year olds make in todays society? Eventually evolution will change that I feel!

I'm 42 and like you have always looked after myself and feel as young as I was in my 30s. We are so much more aware of our bodies today which does help. I think thats why more of us are opting to ttc in our 40s.

I had a son at 31 and never wanted any more - until now! Just the way it is I guess. I gave him 100% and he is the nicest son a mum could ever wish for and I'm actually proud of the job I've done - best achievement to date! But I'm ready to do it all again -I feel I have so much more still to give. The thought of not having kids running around is really depressing. It's easy by the time they're about 6, honestly.

I want to nurture and raise a baby - I'm looking forward to the challenge - its not as bad as many people make out and only really difficult if you have more than one youngster.

I remember my firends putting me off when I was only 30 saying it was all doom and gloom & would change your life - they couldnt have been more wrong and I am so relieved I didnt take their advice!! They were right when they said it changed my life - but for the better and made me a much nicer person.

You only have to do the running around bit whilst theyre little. By the time theyre 9 theyre so grown up and sensible.

As long as you keep your fitness levels up that wont be a problem.

OK let's look at it realistically - even if you were 20 you could still die leaving a 1 yr old (youth does not equal longevity), you could have a serious accident leaving you disabled, you could be fat and unfit and less able to look after a toddler than a 50 yr old, you could have a marriage breakup and stress and goodness knows what, lose your job, party too much!! Youngsters think theyre invincible and theyre just as susceptible to the hazards of life as those of us "nearing retirement" - yeah, which dum as* said that ?! Idiot!

Also, i dont have to work now so I have no pressure. I was a full time working mum first time around which was tough.

Older mums have benefits that outweigh the age factor: patience, knowledge that only comes with age, stability, wisdom, no need to party (well, in moderation!!! we still can have a life!).

So what if you look older - kids are fickle and would use any excuse to ridicule someone - ie if you are fat, disabled, badly dressed, bad hairdo....

Woud you say that young, disabled mums selfish to want kids - what about Heather Mills? Of course not. They're not so well equipped to look after kids either but they manage and I think it makes the kids more protective and aware of people who face some kind of adversity in their lives - can make for a kinder, thoughtful and less selfish child too.

I really wish you luck and hope you decide TTC as you will join an ever growing number of "ancient" (!) mums out there so wont look at all out of place.

Lets list the celebs: Demi Moore 44 - wow she looks ancient (sarcasm) and desperately wants kid, Madonna 42 with hers, marcia Cross 45 with twins, Holly Hunter late 40s, woman from Malcolm in Middle had her 3 at 41, 43 and 45!!!, Geena Davis twins at 48, Cheri Blair 45, Cheryl Tiegs late 40s...need I go on?

I really wish you much luck and fun TTC and I get really excited at the thought of being a mum again and doing all that baby stuff I loved first time round. xxx

are you going to want to raise teens when you are in your 60's? if you think that you will feel up to that challenge, i say go for it.

i'm 28 and pregnant with my first child. I think by the time I am 46 I will probably be looking forward to the kids being off at college and having time alone with my husband. 46 is very close to retirement age.

there are so many risks to having a baby after 40 as well. be sure you talk to your doctor and do what you can to minimize those risks.

don't take what I say to heart, either. you may be a great mom at an older age, i just don't know if i would have the patience to start that late.

I am so tired of the same answers i believe you already know the risks and all that. However as a young mom we made it . and as an older mom at 35 I had a very healthy boy. He is now 10 mos and trying for another now. I will be 37 when it happens again. Trust God ,Get a Good Dr, You are healthy and I believe you take better care of yourself than a lot of these 20 yr olds so. Relax and they will love you regardless

You may fall pregnant relatively easily but I would advise that you get some health checks first as it may save you from some heartbreak. For example, I'd get some basic tests done to see if you're pre-menopausal as this will affect your chances (obviously) but you could also have the quality of your eggs checked as their quality declines as you get older. You really have to consider not just the likelyhood of pregnancy but also if you'll have a healthy baby (or if you could cope if you didn't) and also the risk of having a baby die at any stage of a pregnancy is quite high too. Good luck if it's something you really want but unfortunately for us girls age can bring many fertility and pregnancy problems and not just the ability to conceive.

46 is kindof old to start trying for a baby. Lots of complications could arise, but if you think you will be up to having a teenager when you are in your 60s, then go for it. I think if you see a fertility doctor, he or she would tell you if this idea is unrealistic or not. Another idea is, if you want to be a mother, why not go for adoption? Lots of children without parents who need good homes. Good luck!

at 46 even though your body and mind appear to be very strong. come on you dont know about your internal organs. at 46 you could have serious complications. but if it is very necessary that you become pregnant then check with your doc. otherwise i would suggest that you dont if you are not very rich because this is the time to plan towards your retirement.

I don't think it is selfish, just make sure you really evaluate how well you can cope with the generation gap, and how much energy you will have even for grandchildren one day....if you will even see them.

I think if you feel you can provide your child with everything it deserves, then it doesn't matter how old you are. There are many children already whose parents will probably not live to see them graduate merely because of their poor lifestyle choices.

A mother is a mother no matter how old she is. If you feel up to it, then God bless. I would suggest you make sure you have lots of support. I had my son at 23 and for those first few months felt like I was 57.

y not? my mum had my bro when she is 46 also.. and my bro now is 13 years old!