Is this a good way to cope with being infertile?

So my wife and I have been trying to have kids for years and have failed and then she finally had to get an emergency hysterectomy so now it’s impossible for us to have our own children. We accepted job offers over three thousand miles away from relatives so we don’t have to see our nieces and nephews and be reminded and jealous of something we can’t have. And anytime we’re invited to family events we say we can’t come due to expensive flights or covid. While many have hated covid it’s been the best thing to ever happen to us for this reason. And we have moved into a senior community, and we’re in our thirties, so there’s very little chance of seeing kids. Anything else we can do? 

We have been to a ton of therapists and psychologists and none have helped so we stopped going. We are not open to adoption and don’t want pets. I unfollow everyone on Facebook who’s pregnant or has a child and so does my wife. This whole experience has made me a very bitter and sad person. The only time I’m happy is when I hear about another infertile person or miscarriages. I’ve been told to try to find happiness in other things and at least I can find happiness in something so that’s good