will this marriage last..should friendship end?

I take it you "have to mention he is Muslim" because you are racist towards Muslims?

if she married someone who is not Muslim for papers you would be ok with it?

it does not matter if the man is a Muslim or not, she became married to a stranger, and that is very dangerous. Not all Muslims are dangerous, but some are. Just like not all non-Muslims are dangerour, but some are. But if this man starts to get violent with her, it DOES not mean all Muslim men are like this. If a Muslim man was genuinely practicing Islam in the first place, he would not get married for papers as this is lying/cheating/stealing. She is NOT married to a practicing Muslim.

another thing about them being "madly in love"--it could be him playing her to make sure she doesn't change her mind and get a divorce. or they could really be in love, but that just sounds suspicious.

Your friend will not change until she is ready to change herself. I think you have done all you can to try and get her to change her ways... but if it is putting so much strain on you, then you have to distance yourself.

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you could have just said he is Moroccan LOL and yes, there are tons of Moroccans that use Americans for greencards. I personally know a couple of people who married a Moroccan under the pretense of love but once the greencard came they were gone.

...I also forgot to mention about them being "madly in love"... if he had promised her money in exchange for the greencard he could also be using this "madly in love" to his advantage to get out of paying her.

also, its not like you never tried helping your friend and you distanced yourself away. You tried, but she just doesn't want to help herself. Don't feel guilty for distancing yourself because you did try.

You run into several problems: 1. TIME. Full time jobs? Kids? Do you even have time to yourselves? Life? Don't talk to me about life! 2. If one or the other is P-whipped and the non-p-whipped person's inlaws demand that all your friends be... I don't know, let's say Roman Catholics, and you happen to be agnostic. Well, sorry about your friendship! 3. Responsible living precludes going out drinking with your buddies. It can happen, but lately not as much. 4. Location, location: My friends also moved when they married and graduated from college. How often can you hang out with 100-500 miles between you? Isn't it easier to just find new friends? Ohohoho! You are talking about friendships with the OPPOSITE sex! HA!! My bad! Gee, I wonder where THAT would fit in... Hmmm... Nope. Sorry about your luck. If there isn't time for us guys, do you really think there is going to be time for you too?

If you feel she is an emotional parasite, then let her go.

Doesn't mean you no longer care for her, but at some time in her life she's going to have to grow up.

Her husband won't tolerate her chemical dependency, that is if they stay together.

I would say this relationship/marriage is suspicious and that he has another agenda.

I would certainly call the authorities and tell them of the circumstances of how they met and how quickly they married. He may very well be on the FBI's Most Wanted List.

I've had a problem like this too, I don't think that the marriage will work because of the simple fact that he is a muslim and im not trying to be racist or anything but they do not put up with that at all, she might even get hit by him, because my friend was married to a muslim and he wanted her to act like that and she wasn't that type of person at all, and then he hit her when she was pregnant with his child, but I personally don't think it was wrong for you to end tha relationship, cause ppl only want to get help if they want it, they don't want to listen to you if they don't care. So i think you did a good job by that. And you should also tell you friend to wake up and smell tha coffee too. I know im bout to end my friendship with someone cause she is just messin with all types of ppl and telling her kids to call them da-da and ****. that aint cool, I hope you would feel good about that situation.

It is very unfortunate your friend has got herself in a fix where she doesn't know the man from Adam.I think you did the right thing after all you have children to think about and God knows what kind of man he is.I would also end the friendship..May you find peace and pray for your x friend to come to her senses.

I give you alot of credit & courage for ending that friendship. I had 1 like that i ended last week we had been friends 11 yrs. I think when a friendship drains us it's time to end it. We have to listen to our inner voice that's how we make right chices, if i don't listen i get in all kinds of trouble. Praying helps me That's were i get my answers from. HUGS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!

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Well sometimes ppl dont feel excepted for whatever reason so they are deperate to be normal....maybe she married him to be normal....also your 18 year old friendship isnt over...when something happens she will call you up and want to know what to do.

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Am sure she didn't marry him for free----she got money out of it...ask her