need some help with 1 1/2 year old daughter?

First I think you are dealing with seperation anxiety. She is about that age. I have twins who are 2.5, and when they did this to me at about this age I thought for sure I was not going to survive it. There really is not an answer that is going to fix this today. But here are a few things you can do to help her learn that A: You are going to come back! B: You don't have to be right there ALL the time for her to enjoy herself and C:(and this one will be ongoing for quite a few years yet) You cannot possibly drop what you are doing everytime to cater to crying children. Assuming she is walking, you can teach her to follow along, and *help* you do whatever you are trying to do. (if your cleaning, give her a rag of her own, or a dustpan broom to *help* you sweep) If your trying to cook set her up in her high chair near you at a counter with a few measuring cups, spoons, and forks, a little flour, and let her cook too. Create a tub of objects she only ever gets to play with once in a while(like when you have to get something done, or just need ten minutes to yourself!!) this can include objects such as on old make up compact, old pan/pots, plastic silver, paper plates, even things like macaroni or egg noodles, sting and colored paper(yes it might be messy.....but whats it worth to you?) Make a big deal out of it when you bust it out...WOW whats THIS!! She will take it from there. Sometimes, as aggravating as it it, you just have to tune it out for a minute. Other times, picking her up is the thing to do. Time outs won't be effective at this age. With my guys, when I put them in a time*out* at this age, it was really for my own sanity, and never for longer than two minutes. They don't get the concept until about the time they start to really communicate well with you, IE can you open the door? get me the blocks....where is you cup, and the responses they give you are correct, you know what I mean? Every kid is different, My son was not any where near as bad as his sister. She was SO bad, at one point, I felt like I could do NOTHIING without carrying her around. Thats when I figured out that if I involved her in what I was trying to do, the fussing was cut in half. Other times, like i said, there is not much you can do! Its a phase, and trust me she will grow out of this! Good luck, I really hope this helped!

It's all about attention, and what works.

Try this. When she starts screaming, put her in her room. Tell her she can come out when she calms down, then leave. Do not check on her, unless you have some reason to believe she is in danger (and that should not be an issue in HER room when she is 1 1/2). If she leaves the room, pick her up and put her back in her room, and repeat. DO NOT check on her, or give her any attention when she is screaming. If she gets attention when she is screaming, then you will reinforce screaming. Also, do not get overly demonstrative when she finally comes out. Tell her thank you, and give her a kiss, and go back to what you were doing. If she thinks that throwing a tantrum plus calming down gets love and attention, she'll do that.

Don't explain. Don't try to "tap into" her feelings or explain yours. Just make sure she knows that screaming will not be tolerated.

Obviously, if she's in pain, or in need of something, take care of that, but don't tolerate screaming, and it will stop. As long as you tolerate it, it will continue.

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Okay, this is a problem that I come across while working in an infant and toddler room at a daycare.

First, you should not associate your three year old with your one and a half year old. They are different kids, with different personalities, and comparing them is a big mistake.

The screaming is an attention thing, and it is okay to give her some attention, but you should not give her to much. First, when she starts screaming, get down to eye level with her, and tell her everything is okay. If she is crying while you are sitting watching T.V or something, just sit on the floor with her. She probably just wants you to be with her.

If she is crying when you are trying to do housework, or take care of the three year old, there are a number of things you can do. First, when she starts the screaming, get down to eye level with her and tell her that it hurts your ears when she screams, and that you do not like it. Tell her that you can not hold her right now, but that it is okay. Stand up and walk away. If she continues to scream (wait about 3-5 minutes) go over to her. Get down to eye level agian and say "I am doing something else right now, but you can come help me with it if you want" Then take her by the hand and bring her to what you are doing. If you are cooking dinner, give her a pan and spoon and have her play with that on the floor. If you are cleaning, give her a paper towel and have her "help" clean. This is also something you can do with the three year old too. Then, your daughter will bond with the three year old and you at the same time.

I know she seems like she is to young to comprehend these things, but she isn't.

If none of this works, all you can do is ignore her. You say she goes on for hours, and tahts fine. Let her. As long as she is not hurting herself or anyone else, then let her continue to scream.

As for the time outs. Those will never work if you are putting her in time out for screaming. You can put her in time out for hitting or something along those lines. But for screaming, no, that will never work.

Hope this all helps!

Sorry, I disagree because you CAN ignore her. You are giving in too soon! If you are sure there is nothing wrong with her then she knows that if she screams for long enough then you will give in. Does she stop when you pick her up? Then she has won!

Keep her in the same room or near to you and make sure she is safe, but do your own thing. Reward her when she stops, for however short a time by picking her up an telling her thatyou are very pleased with her.

Persevere!

First, congratulations on having a strong-willed child. I know it is incredibly frustrating but someday she may become a very successful CEO of a company. She knows how to get what she wants. She may be oversensitive because of the teething, but she also has a deep attachment to you (try to remember she is only been out of the womb for about 18 months) Try talking to her about how her behavior is affecting you and acknowledge her feelings in a calm manner. Remember to keep yourself calm. As long as you are calm, you are in control...not her. There is also a great book on guidance called "There Has Got To Be A Better Way; Discipline That Works" by Dr. Becky Bailey. If all else fails, try to hold your breath until she grows out of it. Hope this helps. Good luck, and God Bless!

Sorry Shannon, but picking her up will just encourage her to continue behaving this way. Teething aside, you have to tell her that mommy can't pick her up right now because you're busy. Tell her you can spend time with her once you've finished and ask her to play with a toy until then. You have to be persistant with this. Kids love it when parents break down and give in. It won't take long for her to adjust and you'll be much happier.

Well one day you need to decided that you will have to listen to all that hollering and screaming and whatever you do don't talk to her, look at her, or even give her something else after you told her to do an activity, like coloring, she will get tired of herself after a while and might even apologize make sure you reward for stopping. Sit with her for a while and she will probably want to take a nap after. l have seen it work and hope it helps you. (Putting a child in time-out is not abuse. She needs some help. )

I think she is acting spoiled. it will be an emotional struggle, but you need to start ignoring her fits. She is throwing them because she gets what she wants. After a week of not getting what she wants out of those fits, it should stop. Make sure you praise her for the times she doesnt throw a fit when she normally would. continue the time you spend with her but let her know that sometime she needs to stay home.

maybe try putting her in daycare a few hours a week so she can get used to not being around you for a little while...once she feels safe when you're not around, she'll probably be more compliant if you ask her to play by herself :] if that doesn't work, buy a gate to put in her doorway and if she has a tv in her room [in a safe spot of course] put on a show that she likes while you clean or something...she won't like it at first but as long as she can see you that should bring her some comfort...hopefully something will work for you! good luck :]

Let her scream, she has to know that you are the boss not her. She will eventually realize she can't have her way. Just hang in there, you have come this far with your three year old, I' am sure you are doing great! PS whiskey is not the answer PPS tried earplugs?