31 weeks w/2nd and feeling lonely?

Hi there! I went through something very similar, and I wasn't pregnant. I can only imagine going through it all at the same time.

Moving to another country where you don't know anyone or speak the language is a challenge. I think it took me half a year to adjust to living in Germany with my husband, and by the time I came around he had already left for Iraq again.

You're only real options are to take a trip home early... and spend the time before the birth and the birth without your husband, or stick it out.

Make sure you're assertive with what you want. They're being paid - (and even though that entire thing works a bit differently over there...) you should ask your questions and get your answers no matter how long it takes them to figure out. Don't leave your prenatal visits unsatisfied. If you're worried about coming off as rude or... "American" think of your questions in advance, and pick up a language book. I know they sell them in the PX. Just learn a few key words, it will help them help you faster, and they'll appreciate your efforts in dealing with the language barrier.

As for the hospital stay... I doubt you can get out of staying the 5 days. So... make the best of it. Chit chat with your room mate, you're both going through the same thing. And if she's younger, chances are she knows more English than the doctors... she could help you get things, or translate for you if something wasn't feeling right. If you want a hospital robe... buy something similar, or have someone from home send you something. If you don't feel comfortable having them there with you in a shower, ect... you can express this. Maybe have your husband there to help.

Even though you're in a different culture, and they're rules and regulations are different, you can still find a middle ground that suits both you and your hospital.

And lastly... as hard as it is to do, and with your hormones and being pregnant it will be extra hard... but look at the bright side. It's only when I changed my attitude about the whole situation that I *really* started to enjoy myself in Germany. Keep an eye out for things that are going on in your community... outside of the military. Right now... you have a free ride in a foreign country. Enjoy it as much as possible! Visit places, be brave try out resaurants...

And if you ever need someone to chit chat with Arneb8 is my Yahoo messenger name. Congrats on the baby! How fun it will be to tell them they were born in another country! <3

Oh, you poor thing. I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. Surely there must be some kind of support available on your army base. Is there a councillor available for you to talk to? Maybe there are resources available for "army wives" that you haven't found out about yet. Does your husband understand how miserable you are? Maybe he can make an effort to introduce you to some of the other wives.

As for your concerns about the hospital. I know you're not looking forward to having to share a room but perhaps it will turn out to be a good thing. Remember, your roommate will have a baby almost exactly the same age as yours. If your roommate speaks even a little English then maybe you will become friends and then you won't be so lonely any more.

The way you feel is completely understandable, your away from friends and family you don't speak the language of the country you in yet and going to a hospital in a new land can be very scary. Surly you are not the only Army wife there right? Maybe you should try making friends with some else stationed near you. Check to see if there is a wives groups or any play groups for your son on base and maybe that will help you make some new friends and feel better.

i can understand you very well. i am 35 weeks and i have all my relatives around even though sometimes i feel lonely if they dont have time for me. This is the time when we need someone around us emotionally. I can understand your situation as no one is arouind and also yoru hospital problem.

Please take it other way round. Try to face the situation. Think that atleast you are having your little son with you. Play with him and pass more and more time with him. Read some good books or try meditation, it will help you a lot.

cook something good of your and your husband's choice. Listen and sing songs. And just dont worry about arrival of the baby because he/she will come safele even in difficult situation. I am from india and in india it is usual to have common hospital rooms for middle class people, hospital staff is also sometimes misbehaves but whatever is going to happen will happen because its natural

so dont worry and be happy. At this stage being Happy is most important for your new baby, please keep this in mind and atleast for your baby try to keep yourself happy.

What a crappy organization of humans you are handling! Sounds like you are greater off with out him/them. I understand it's no longer image ultimate, being a unmarried mum and all, however matters gets greater for you. You're mountain climbing up hill proper now, there will likely be an handy downhill trek quickly. Go for walks while you'll get out of the apartment. If you've gotten a laptop seem up humorous movies on-line. But dangle in there given that there is a shiny aspect to this gray subject. And you & little one are greater off with out a few POS flake to your lives. Also- You'll lose that weight!

I understand what you were telling. I sometime feel lonely too even I am in my own country. Hormone can make us feel that way. Try to do something passing time or something new that you are interested in.

Get your nails done, go to salon and pamper yourself like you haven't done it before can make you feel better. Spoil yourself alittle bit.

You may join the class like the art class or french class or new mom class to have new friends ect.

I hope it might helps abit.

Best Wishes

a friend of mine felt like this when she was pregnant and she moved back home to the states until after the baby was born.

Seems like you are going through Post-Partum.....Don't worry it will pass.......and if you continue to feel this way talk to your Doctor, he might put you on a mild anti-depressant.....Just take one day at a time, you'll be fine!

its just your pregnancy hormones getting to you, after you have the baby, youll be fine. Dont make your husband feel bad, hes just doing the best he can.