36, single male, never married. Why is it so hard to meet women?

First forget about being 36 and not married. That is irrelevant to the scheme of life. It is ok, not to be married. And whatever you do don't rush into marriage just because you feel you need to be married. Old saying is when you are not looking you will find what you are looking for. Relax and enjoy life. Something will happen when you least expect it. And you are not weird just because you are not married. If anything you are smart and when you do find that someone you won't have alot of garbage from previous divorce/relationship. It will happen. Be patient.

36 And Single Man

The funny thing is I have very few single friends. Having my daughter the year after I graduated pissed a lot of them off. Real friends, I have found have a balance of give and take. My best friend is single and she will sit and listen for hours about the kids and my hubby, ETC. But then again when her latest loser breaks her heart I am there to help her as well. I think you may need a Mommy's night out or at the very least an intelligent ADULT conversation. As for the "Don't Cha" phase, they grow out of that in about 6 to a 18 months. My 12 year old would sing the "Milk Shake" and "Don't Cha' songs on a loop all through the last 6 months of fourth grade until the end of fifth grade.

Church, museums, or anyplace where you think that women who would share your interests may gather REGULARLY...If you start seeing the same ones routinely (check ring finger), you may want to start a HARMLESS introductory conversation with one or more of them about whatever the focus of the meeting place is (if you're at the art museum, talk about the sculpture, painting, etc...if you're at a jazz club, talk about the band or artist, your favorite, your collection etc.).

If you're waiting for them to approach you, I hope you're driving a "killer sled", sporting some bling, or have a reputation of your prowess proceed you...check out the nature shows, the male ALWAYS has to put on some kind of show to attract the female, and at your age, the women who you may be pursuing will want to see some visible means of support...that's just a fact of life.

Get out there, hurry up, the clock is ticking...but always remember to be yourself...it's nothing like finding the "right" one, but the only reason she fell for you is because you weren't really being yourself.

Good Luck

It's just hard to meet people period. Know what you mean about the "none available". I've done the online dating thing, and it didn't work for me. Felt like I was looking through a catalog, and the chances that you'll come across someone you actually want to let contact you are slim. It's hard to find someone compatible, unless you just happen to luck up. Good Luck!

It's more than okay that you are 36 and have never been married yet; when you find the girl you are meant to be with, you will get married. In the mean time, why don't you tell people what area/state you are in? Also, have you considered starting an account on MySpace? (My friend met a man that way and they are going to get married.)

Maybe you are trying too hard. Putting off a "desperate" vibe, even though you may not feel that way.

Just flirt. Just having an air of flirtatiousness (? is that a word) will make women curious about you. If I see a man who has a look like "I know something you don't know" about him, it somehow makes him...................grab my attention.

Also, maybe you are too picky and don't realize it. Desperate and picky.

Try not to be that.

You've really answered it yourself:

You are 36 and have a hard time dating

You have preferences that are outside of what people normal are/do.

You are determined to just find 'that right one'.

My advice, loosen up and start going for outside of your expectations, you may just find Ms. Right were you least expect it. Or better yet, when you least are looking for it, it may just come to you without even realizing it.

If you live on your own maybe you can move to the city or something im sure you'll meet about 10 women a night

It is just as hard for you to find a woman as it is a woman to find a good man. Maybe a relationship is really not for you or you are looking for too much.