I'm an idiot and made a horrible mistake....?

If it was during a break up, you didn't cheat. Stop feeling guilty. Tell your boyfriend that what you did while you were broken up is your business and stop apologizing for it. The past is the past, period. I'm guessing that it was he who broke up with you, judging by your tone. He can't have you and leave you at the same time. If he wants you to be only with him, he needs to protect the relationship at all costs. You did nothing wrong.

You would now not be able to fix it. A couple of yrs in the past i had a quality pal and we have been arguing and i ended speaking to her.It was complitelly my mistake. I felt really dangerous and wished that i could change, nevertheless it used to be too late.Well, someday she called me performing like nothing happened, but i felt unhealthy and apologiyesd for striking her down like that and telling her some lovely harsh stuff.You already know what she stated to me?Good she stated "i do not know what you are talking about!I really don't recall this fight you are telling me about. You never put me down!I wouldnt can help you do this,im not an fool. You may keep in mind any person else an idiot, but not me". She got beautiful mad and left and now she's not speaking to me again,except this time i really dont give a damn!

It is good that you feel guilty, because if you didn't then you wouldn't be a decent human being.

However, it is now time to give yourself a break here. You were broken up. You were free to do what you wanted, and you went back with an old boyfriend for a little while.

Your boyfriend is hurt, sure, but he really does not have much right to be. He was free to do what he wanted too, and he may have.

Say to him what you said to us if it comes up again, or if it is obvious that he is acting differently or weird toward you. Don't harp on it though...let it go if he wants to let it go.

Emphasize the fact that this was not a cheat though. You didn't cheat, you had broken up...don't let him use it as a weapon to manipulate or make you feel bad.

you may no longer have the potential to repair it. some yrs in the past i had a ideal pal and we've been arguing and that i finished chatting together with her.it replaced into complitelly my mistake. i felt extremely undesirable and wanted that i could desire to alter, even regardless of the undeniable fact that it replaced into too previous due.properly, sooner or later she observed as me appearing like no longer something occurred, yet i felt undesirable and apologiyesd for putting her down like that and telling her some tremendously harsh stuff.you comprehend what she reported to me?properly she reported "i don't comprehend what you're speaking approximately!i easily do no longer undergo in suggestions this combat you're telling me approximately. you by no potential positioned me down!i wouldnt assist you are attempting this,im no longer an fool. you are able to evaluate somebody else an fool, yet no longer me". she have been given tremendously mad and left and now she's no longer chatting with me returned,different than this time i easily dont supply a rattling!

If you really love him and he really loves you you both will be able to get over it together. I suggest, give it time, give him space, yet DO NOT neglect him! There is a fine line between space and neglect. It depends on how often you get to see him without an organized date (if ever.) Whatever you do. Don't cheat again! This is not scolding it is reminding.

Talk to him, love him and let him know that you are sorry without trying to buy him out of his anger with flowers and chocolate. Love him without material things to get in the way. He will believe you way more if you tell him that you are sorry in person rather than on a card.

Good Luck!

Make it real clear to your ex that it is over and really mean it. Provide proof to your boyfriend by loving him and doing everything you can to forgive yourself and make sure you take full responsibility and have a plan in case you are tempted to cheat again when you all have problems. You will have problems and unless you have a chosen way to deal with that stress you need to be prepared for your own weakness to look for familar comfort. It always backfires and you create new ugly problems. Best wishes.

Everybody makes mistakes. At least you two where brokeup when it happened, so technically it's not all that bad. But here's my advice, talk to your bf and try to work it out. If he's not listening then just wait for him to come around. Give him some time, he was close to losing you maybe he doens't want to feel that way again. Good luck!

If you had this hook-up while you were on break from your boyfriend, he can't really hold it against you. That's the definition of break. The best that you can do is explain to him how you understand that there is nobody but him for you, and that the hook-up with your ex was the defining moment that brought you to that realization.

tell him what you just told us....same words...same tone..if he is worth getting upset for, he will hear and feel what you have to say and again if he is the man who is worthy of your sadness ..shame..whatever you call it...if he is the one...he will take all of your hurt away and work hard at never letting you feel this way again-as should you with his pain. if he doesn't and he works hard at making you life hell for your mistake...then leave him......but let him grovel in it a little bit...i mean come on..he deserves that!

Just stop talking about it. If he took you back then opening old wounds over and over again won't make him feel any better. Just let it go