when I have been angry at my child?

You might be over-censoring yourself.

None of us can help our feelings, just our actions.

Anger is not something that needs to be forgiven - wrong action is.

If you feel that you have done your child a wrong, apologize to her and then forgive yourself. Repeat: FORGIVE YOURSELF.

Nobody is perfect, and although we want to be perfect mothers, there's no such thing.

There is no apology needed for a feeling. Likewise, let your child have her feelings. Do not censor feelings, just actions.

i don't know where you heard that it's "supposed" to be the other way around but, it's not!! Kids get over things really quickly, they move on to the next thing, and forget about what came before far better than adults. If a kid gets hurt, as soon as they feel better it's as if it never happened. Chances are the parent feels awful for a long time!!

I think my husband said something meaningful along these lines when our kids were little and sleeping like angels. He said he thinks it's easiest to feel loving towards them when they'ree asleep because then it's not at all about them (they're asleep!) and it's all about yourself and how deeply you feel and how beautiful they look and how blessed and happy they make you feel. When they're awake, there's so much mor going on and you have to "deal with them." It's much easier to feel all warm and fuzzy when it's just you "dreaming" about how wonderful they are!!

I've been through feeling really guilty over being angry at my kids. So often they haven't done anything out of the ordinary or worthy of that much anger but, it;s me just ffeling really stressed and at my wits end. It's too easy to tke it out on them. Take a break when you need to and love them as much as you can. Be good to yourself and be good to them -- they will be much happier when you are happier.

I get that way too....I just turn on the tunes.

their cute when they sleep, dont let that cuteness get too you!