My 14 year old nephew snuck out of the house last night.....?

Well first off I commend you for leaving the room first to cool down. It was good that you did that. If you haven't yet I'd sit down with your nephew and explain to him that the reason you took away these PRIVILEGES is not because you don't want him to have fun... but because you care. Explain to him that at 14yrs old the world is a dangerous place especially at later hours.If you see that he is seeing your point and looks like he is truely sorry I'd tell him he can have the phone back after a week, his friends he can be back with after a month(Because he wasn't alone the night he snuck out and who knows what they were doing). As far as the job situation goes I'd let this month go by to determine by his attitude if he's really ready for a job. Freedom is earned not just given to. You weren't to harsh. Don't worry!

Phone and friends for two weeks, but let him keep the job. I agree, it teaches him responsibility.

He should have done what he did, but to punish him for the entire summer is a little much.

You do need to sit him down and explain to him why you have to punish him. Let him know how dangerous it is to sneek out. Just because someone else did it when we were younger is totally different. Back when I was a kid, we left our cars running outside of a store, with us kids inside of it. We also left the front doors of our homes unlocked and sometimes open. I know we kept a key outside on the porch. Its a different world we live in now.

What you did was right but let him work because that will take up most of his time for the summer. Kids especially teens need things to keep them busy during the summer. Set him some curfew hours and let him stay until that time. Make him tell you where he is going and when he will be back, then maybe he won't feel like he should be sneaking out, not unless he is doing something he shouldn't do.

thats very harsh, maybe you should talk to him about this and just cool down, otherwise when he is old enough to leave he is going to!

I would ground him for a week or something, 2 tops thats a long punishment for the summer... but dont take a whole one away from he, he is still a kid after all and these are memories he'll always have.

Jeez, sounds like she has an excellent existence. (i'm a 14 twelve months previous lady.) it somewhat is the only element that i'm thinking approximately: Did she cheat on her boyfriend? she is going to enhance as much as be a slut if she keeps this up. Yeah, whilst my mom tells me stuff and supplies me lectures, I in basic terms turn her off. no person desires to hearken to it. removing her privileges can not do something. this is in basic terms going to make her mad and he or she'll prefer to insurrection much extra. My mom's in no way taken away something from me. the only time she took away my telephone, I very almost left the domicile. She gave it back the following day. you ought to end with the lectures and punishments. permit her save her privileges. in basic terms have her do much extra chores. And continuously call her, asking the place she is. or you ought to continuously invite her boyfriend over for dinner and casually improve that night.

14 yr olds will sneek out. We did it. I agree to loosing phone and friend privlidges for a week or two, but not job. That teaches him responsability. Just make it clear he is in big trouble, and how lenient you are to let him go ahead and work. :)

good luck!

I'm sure this is pretty common these days, but it is a concern. My granddaughter lived with me at fourteen. She was very angry because of her parents divorce and loss of interest in her. She became pregnant by another fourteen year old.

A fourteen year old nephew was seduced by a twenty-four year old man. (His parents had also divorced.) He eventually died after suffering for years with AIDS.

Kids (and many adults) don't realize how a few careless moments can change their lives. Your nephew needs to be disciplined, but he should have no doubt that it is because your love him dearly.

When I snuck out of the house when I was 14 - I was grounded for 30 days - no tv, no phone, no anything. I survived.

you shouldnt get all mad at him like that, you have to be more understanding, if you yell at him all the time he will end up sneeking out every night.