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am i wrong in not letting her go?
i have a daughter who wants rewards but doesnt want anyting to receive themshe was on honor roll all year but only because they gave her most of the answers and allowed her to keep taking test over and over till they were all correct.we are in a summer reading program at the library.all she wants is the prizes and rewards for going but doesnt want to read or do projects to earn them.i just told her shes not going anymore.is that wrong or to harsh?i feel like if you get rewards it should be cause you earned them.is it to harsh?shes 8 and going into second grade so i know she can do it,just doesnt want to do it on her own and i refuse to say she did the stuff if she didnt
meant to say wants rewards but doesnt want to do anything to earn them.sorry
4 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
you are on the right track. giving rewards for no work is asking for disaster.
- 1 decade ago
What kind of school does she go to where they give answers and let them retake the test until they get it right. That's just weird.
It's good that you are trying to teach her what it is to earn something. Since you have said no to the reading program -stick to that. Take the summer to create a program at home where she is required to do certain things in order to earn these rewards that she loves so much. Since you are the one handing out rewards and checking the work that she has done you can verify that she works to her ability each time. You can even choose to have reading be a part of these chores as well.
Don't despair. This is very changeable. Just stay mellow and firm and she'll learn.
Good Luck!
- 1 decade ago
I think that you are absolutely right! She has to learn that if she wants something she will have to work for it. If she doesn't learn this lesson now, it will only be harder for her as she gets older. I do not think that you are being harsh at all, I think that you are being completely logical. I would make her continue to go though. That way she isn't quitting something that she signed up for. That way it will give her a chance to realize what she is missing out on and maybe she will decide for her self that if she wants the reward she will have to do the work. It is a good lesson to learn and she is more than old enough to understand it.
Good luck to you - stick to your guns on this!
- chestnutlocs1Lv 41 decade ago
No it's not too harsh and you as a parent should rely on your feelings about situations like this one. I feel you are correct and she will learn a valuable lesson in what you are teaching her. Stick to your guns!