Can people really change? Should forgiveness be there for someone who totally broke me down on purpose?

umm this could be tricky.ive been with a guy who wanted me back only because i moved on and i was doing so much better for myself and other guys wanted me.basically he wanted me back because he didnt have me.some men do that but this could be a different situation.

see the thing is when or if you go back to him you have to start from ground one.dont look at the past,forget about it and let it rest.we all make mistakes and sometimes it takes losing the person we love to realise that we are hurting them.maybe your break up was a wake up call to him and he changed and now he has just realised that you complete him and he wants you back.But you have to realise that if you havent forgiven him for hurting you or if you havent forgiven yourself for letting yourself get hurt then maybe you shouldnt go for it.you cant move on if the past is still haunting you.

before you commit to him ask yourself if its worth going back to,the relationship,if you really need him in your life and ask yourself if you are strong enough to move on if he hasnt really changed.if you are then go for it if not then dont.

i hope my advice helps you out and good luck......

I do think people can change, and one of my favorite lines from a song was sung by Smoky Robinson, "People can change. They always do. Haven't they noticed the changes in you?"

So, yes. I know I have changed in certain ways- some for the better and some not so good.

It is up to you to decide if you would like to give this person another chance. I am not sure what your relationship entailed, but maybe you are not ready for something AS serious. Maybe you can slowly become friends again -instead of a lover? Perhaps it can be more if time, but it certainly does not have to be.

God created a appropriate international in the commencing up...the unique sin of Adam and Eve brought about the international to alter...we now stay in a sinful, corrupt international until the return of Jesus. After the merely suitable judgement, God will set up a clean heaven and a clean earth. 2 Peter 3:13 although we, in accordance to his promise, seek for brand spanking new heavens and a clean earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. Revelation 21:11 Then I observed a clean heaven and a clean earth, for the 1st heaven and the 1st earth had handed directly to the finished beyond, and there grew to become into no longer any sea. Isaiah sixty 5:17 For, behold, I create new heavens and a clean earth: and the former shall no longer be remembered, nor come into strategies. Isaiah sixty six:22 For with the aid of fact the hot heavens and the hot earth, which i will make, shall proceed to be earlier me, saith the LORD, so shall your seed and your call proceed to be.

People rarely change!

I don't know what the specifics are so it is up to you to decide whether to give him another chance!

Sounds like verbal and/or physical abuse. I would be very cautious about going back in, if this is the situation!

You have to ask yourself what do you have to gain (and lose) by trying again? If there is a big upside, AND you believe you are strong enough to survive if he hurts you again, then try it!

If you don't really care for him and/or fear that your esteem, safety or emotional health could be damaged, let him go!

In my experience they don't change, they just say they do, because they realize how stupid they were and miss you. People like this "change" a lot in their life and will continue leaving and coming back. You deserve better, don't let yourself fall in this trap.

You will know if he is sincere or not about changing. But most men say they have just to be back with what was good for them but bad for you Listen to heart and good luck

It's good to be able to forgive people, but make sure that your apology is sincere, otherwise it's just a compilation of words.

Forgive, but never forget.

It takes strength of character to be able to forgive. Just don't be stupid and pretend it never happened. Keep it in the corner of your mind.

People can change, but only if they are motivated enough. I would only give someone another chance if you are prepared to suffer for it.

if you don't forgive, all you do is hurt yourself deeply. you have to forgive. trust is another matter, and that has to be EARNED. if he wants a chance, and seems sincere, give it to him, but he still has to EARN that trust back. he has to prove he's changed.