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heathen asked in Family & RelationshipsOther - Family & Relationships · 1 decade ago

Anyone else definitely not want kids - ever?

When I've said I don't want kids I get a combination of these reactions:

- you'll change your mind some day

- what's wrong with you / you're not normal

- what if your husband wants them

- you'd better hurry, your clock is ticking, hurry up

- but that's what women are for

- you think you're better than women who have kids

- you were a kid once

- that's what marriage is for / why did you get married then?

I'm a happily married woman to a man who also doesn't want kids. The idea of being openly defiant to this social pressure seems to throw people (especially churchies) off their rockers. Especially since judging someone would require some knoweldge of that person. I can't believe the hostility I've received. Can anyone explain it in logical terms?

Update:

P.S. - Does anybody know someone who took care of their parents in their old age? If my husband dies, I'll take care of myself. What am I, retarded?

Update 2:

I was thinking that a child would most likely ruin OUR lives.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    wow, to answer your question yes you are a retard, i can tell you have no life by looking at your profile and seeing how many questions you answered. You really have to get a life and find something to amuse you except for the computer. wow. i can also probably tell that either you are very dissapointed in your mother. or your mother is very dissapointed in you. if you still have one that is. i can also conclude that you spend all your time researching about cats and dogs... time to face the fact that your an unhappy cat lady who believes that she doesn't deserve children.. and to tell you the truth. you don't. unless you get some major therapy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i don't want kinds either... but i cannot say for sure i will not change mind (i am too young for kids too)

    you may not want a kid right now, but when you get old don't you want someone to take care both of you? And just wondering.. what if your husband dies.. i don't think other relatives will take care of you better than your own child..

    but definitely if you don't feel like it, don't do it.. you may ruin your child's life

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I tried to have kids three times and failed. but I have been married for 20 years and my companionship with him is great.

    I don't think kids make a marriage. Being kidless is probably a good way to go. As far as what I have seen-kids are darn selfish from the minute they are born, till you pay the last college payment. It could very well be the greatest thankless job.

  • ♥Amoureuse♥
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Kids are tho joy of life ,how don't want you to have them ???

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  • chaminda l
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    No one is obliged to do anything....

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