Why do gay men act like women and gay women dress and try to look like men?

Gender is pretty much an artificial social construct anyway, given that human beings behave in many different shadings of Gender whether they know it or not.

Don't you know women who boss their husbands around, or who would rather do sports than do "girly " things? Don't you know men who are the "soft" one in a family that the kids go to, rather than mom? We don't call those "acting male" or "acting female".

Also, Gay,Lesbian and Transgender(like me) people have more freedom and permission to express themselves openly, so the contrast is more evident. Straight culture is (sadly) mostly homophobic, patriarchal, hierarchal and oppressive.

Finally, human attraction has a butch/femme masculine/feminine give/receive dominant/submissive dynamic that makes it exciting and delicious. I guarantee you that there is some "masculine" guy in your community who is a soft "girl" with his wife behind closed doors and may even dress the part.

good question, actually.

Well i ask that all the time, i wonder that also just as well as you do. I am a lesbian and i dont dress like a boy nor act like a boy, but i guess some girls out there really feel better in boy clothes, but i also wonder trust me i do. I know it must be a little hard for all the people out there that are close minded seeing a girl or a boy just walk dressed as the oposite sex. But i guess it does make them happy because why would they be exposing them self everyday to that possible critism. So in conclusion i guess they do it because it makes them feel more confortable with their body. =) and i dont think you have to hang around a drag show everyday, ive seen it everywhere now and days, specially in six flags and knotts berry farm. all those amuzement parks. so i understand your question. well if you find a more logical answer first lol tell me because it would explain a lot. well hope you get your answer...byez!

Its purely stereotypical.

Effemination and masculation are just as common in the heterosexual populous as the homosexual populous, society just shines light on the homosexuals.

Honestly, and don't get me wrong I have NO problem with female masculation, but a woman is blessed with beautiful curves, and breasts, and biologically feminine features, and as gay as I am, I have an undying respect for how beautifully a woman is made, and it almost seems a shame to get rid of that with over masculation. I mean, I can understand male attire, but women just have so much to work with, it almost taken for granted in society.

As for men, well, haha, boys will be boys, and I don't have a problem with effemniation of men either. Its a tad annoying though to have my ear chated off by some guy trying to pass as a valley girl with pecs, coupled with zero conversation skill, and Im ready to douse myself in gasoline as light up a match.

But yeah, I'm pretty much okay with a guy in a dress if hes not annoying. And I'm pretty much okay with a girl in a suit, if she still uses that which nature has so kindly rewarded her with.

~Charlie Murder

What I don't get is how you define an action, a syle of dressing or a hair cut as being masculine or feminie....I mean Halle Berry had really REALLY short hair for a while - did you think she was masculine? Mike Tyson has the softest lispiest voice on the planet - you gonna go up to him and call him a sissy?

Why do you try and put people in certian gender roles and box them up? I think you limit yourself when youplaces these limits on other people.

Many homosexuals, and even heterosexuals, find the concept of a singular gender identity very constraining. Society sometimes forgets that gender and sex are two different things. Sex is biological, while gender is simply the attributes society puts to each sex. For example, in the past, only men wore pants and it was considered cross dressing for a woman to wear pants. Similarly, men in the 16th and 17th centuries wore wigs, makeup, and wore high heels and leggings. You might be a woman biologically, but feel closer to the male gender identity.The concept of gender identity is always changing.

You have an extremely limited experience in reality. Women, regardless of sexual orientation can look and dress like men. Heck most women in general wear today what was originally concidered to be "male only" apparell. Your jeans! Short hair is no more a distiniction of sexual orientation than what color car a person drives or what state they live in. From my personal experience I'd have to say the ratio of "butch" to "Femme" is more or less equal. You just need to get out more.

If you did go to a gay bar you would realize that you only recognize one portion of the total population of gay people that you see going to the amusement park you work at. Also I'm sure alot of the "lesbians" you notice are just midwestern women, thats just how farmer's wives look.

Of course this whole question could be turned around, I could ask why women act like such total queens and why straight guys are so butch and dykey.

Some of the most masculine men I have ever met are homosexual (such as cops, firemen, even one trash collector), most feminine women are homosexual as well at the fact that THE most feminine man I have ever met was very happily married and had five kids! Even I was shocked with that myself.

But masculinity/femininity has nothing to do with one's sexuality; it's an old obsolete misnomer.

Some do some don't, gays are all different so try to understand this.

You are married and you aren't about to be having sex with anyone other than your husband so you don't need to worry about telling the sexes apart...you are spoken for so mind your own business...unless you are interested and want some action...hey! I don't know you from Adam/Eve.

I'm a bit scared I'll meet and fall for a bearded woman on hormones and with a micropenis. one day...but I don't fret about it.

Not all gay people are like that.

I am not. I am a lesbian, I am feminine. I have long hair, wear skirts too. I put on make up, I wear high heel. Even though sometimes I am a bit tom boy (cos I like jeans better than skirts.)but nobody can tell I am a lesbian unless i tell them.

I am not bi-sexual, I know that because I can't fall in love with man.