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Why aren't you a foster parent?

I am curious as to reasons people might have.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Why ARE you? I don't really understand this question. There are many reasons..?

  • 1 decade ago

    I'm not a foster parent because I have two small children and a lot of foster children have been exposed to a lot of things and I can't let what has happened to the other kids affect my children. Maybe when they're older I can be a foster parent of a younger child that way I don't have to worry about them being touched in a wrong way or anything. They could better protect themselves. If I didn't have children I would probably be a foster parent by now. I would probably end up adopting the kid and asking for full custody though. I get attached pretty quickly.

  • 1 decade ago

    I am not a foster parent becasue at this time I am going to school full time and working partime.. In addition to caring for my own two children. I would however upon graduation like to foster and maybe adopt a couple of children.. older in age.. 5/6,.... 10/12 something like that. I cannot have any more children and besides the world is over populated now... why continue to contribute to a problem that seemily has no end. I would reather help the ones that are already here that need the love I am wanting to give!

  • 1 decade ago

    My husband and I have actually looked into fostering. We both love children and can't have any more of our own. The only barrier for both of us is the "fear" of attachment. I don't know that my heart could withstand the pain of loving a child so dearly, caring for him/her daily, knowing what they may/may not have been through in their young lives, then to have them taken back out of our home again. After I was grown and out of the house, my parents became fosters. They had many children in and out of their house over several years time. I saw the pain when those children came and went. I know that for most children, that is the goal, for foster care to be temporary, for those children to be able to reunite with their own families or to find new adoptive ones. But my husband and I get so attached to children and love them so much, that I'm afraid that would turn into such a heart ache for us. I see in typing this how selfish that actually sounds, but thus far has been our reason in not taking that next step.

    God Bless you all that can do it. Those children need you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My mom says that she would love to take in a foster kid, but she said that there are requirements, and because she is a single parent, and i guess they want the child to have two parents to be with. and alos since my dad pays for our bills and house and everything.... her income alone isnt enough to support a foster child. So yeah, thats my family's reason, but when i grow up, im thinking of having a foster child of my own. =)

  • 1 decade ago

    I have friends who foster and have adopted from the experience. For me personally, I would have a hard time separating myself so that I would not be devastated when the child was returned to the parent and or parents. I would want to keep them all and that is just not possible for me.

  • 1 decade ago

    I am not a foster parent cause the Courts says I can't.

  • 1 decade ago

    I can't get used to the idea of having a child brought to me in there time of need and me loving and taking care of that child. Becoming the emotionally attached to that child, with the state having the right to come in and take the child that I have created a home for, the child i have fallen in love with, the child i have come to view as my own. Leaving me with no rights to get that child back, to see that child or even to contact anyone reguarding the well being of that child.

  • 1 decade ago

    I don't like children. I liked mine, I like my girlfriends and I like our grandbaby, but I don't like other children and want nothing to do with them. I think that makes me a lousy candidate to foster a child.

  • 1 decade ago

    If I had the room, I would be. But I work 8am - 6.30pm and live in a poky little flat. That's why

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