This is an infidelity question for MEN ONLY?

He is confused. Men only think it, confused boys actually do it. A man marries not only for sex but to have a life long partner to grow up with. You know, someone to talk to, someone to care for you when you're sick, someone who will forgive you when you say something hurtful. Things like that. Married folks live longer then singles. I wish he had told you before you got married now you are stuck with him until he blows it. You may forgive him you may not. The only question that was and is valid is when he asked you to marry him. Tell him no, it will never be O.K. Meanwhile check out all of his finances, bank accounts, saving, etc. Get prepared. I hope he will not do some stupid that not even his tears will be able to undo. Good Luck

This guy is HIGHLY immature and not marriage material. Think of this. The first year of marriage is when people are on their best behavior. This is as good as this guy is likely to get. Any guy that would start asking his wife if he can have extra marital sex is either just wacko or a total sociopath. Not only is this guy not husband material, he's not father material either. Look ten years into the future. You have two small kids and he's just cleaned out your savings and run off with a bimbo because you are too tired from taking care of kids all day to have sex. He is ABSOLUTELY lying that all men are like that. All the men I know treat their wives as if they were a great treasure and would never do this to them. They know the difference between right and wrong. This guy doesn't; he only cares about himself. He will make a very poor (and very temporary) father. You made a mistake, and that's unfortunate. Why the heck did you marry this guy after his first stunt? Most men I know who were involved in a broken engagement were very depressed and down for quite awhile. This guy immediately goes out and starts screwing around. That right there should have told you exactly what this guy is--a narcissist. Please, don't have kids with this guy. It won't be fair to them.

Kent in SD

I wont say that all men think like this but will say that all men will find other women attractive and maybe at least have a passing thought of "wonder what that's like?" Now, for me personally, yes I would love to have the mrs' permission to do other women...of course I would reciprocate. I'd love to watch. But that's me. Being one of the guys thats being totally honest here and having gone out...I can say yes you should worry. By him keeping mentioning it..he's thinking about it a lot. He will eventually do it again. I won't deny that there is a euphoria of a new partner. Not that you aren't wonderful in your own right, but just think about when you try a new dessert...even if you have a perfectly lovely chocalate cake at home.

and come on.....broke up for 36 hours and hes out chasing tail...you bet he's gonna look for it again.

No you should not worry. You should just get a divorce, and find someone that wants to be with you only.

Yes some men do think like that, but it is called fantasizing. Their is a big difference. He most probably is cheating on you NOW anyway. Wake up. By the way he is not a man, he is a cheater.

Some women make me so ashamed of my own gender. Why the hecks are they so dependent on men. Why do they allow them to treat them so disrespectfully?

He is just waiting for you to tire and say yes. Threaten him with divorce. Tell him to stop it or its over. Before you give him the ultimatum, I suggest you see a few divorce lawyers, they give free consultations. Plan this out well. See if they can offer you some advice to prepare. If he does cheat, then you'll be ahead of him. Start stashing cash and other stuff aside to break away. He wants sex, let him have it after you are divorced. Good Luck.

Not all men think like this, there is the concept of fantasy and attraction;however, it is the intimicy between two people in a realtionship that endures troubles.. financial, family ,etc.

He probably wouldn't like the fact if you asked to sleep with other guy's, especially an ex boyfriend or someone he may not be fond of.

I think it's only a matter of time before he ventures out for Euphoria... make your intentions clear with him and get ready to move on..

Good Luck!

Saying that all men do this is just an attempt to persuade you to let him cheat on you. Many, many men do not cheat on their wives ever. Just remember, if he cheats and you have proof, you can divorce him and get half of what he has. I know thats extreme, but I just thought I'd throw that out there.

Another extreme would be to do the same. I'm not saying to cheat on him, but to show him what it means to cheat. Ask him how he would feel if you hooked up with another man just for sex.

He's obviously not the commitment type, and he will never change. And your right, he should have never married you if thats the way he wants it. Tell him if he cheats on you, you will file for divorce...and mean it.

Renee,

All men absolutely DO NOT! I have been married to my wife for 32 years and have been totally faithful to her since we went out in High School. We were high school sweethearts and she has been the only girl for me since that time. We became Christians over twenty years ago and I will never consider any other woman as long as we both shall live. I would suggest that you both begin a Bible Study together with a nearby church group. I would be glad to assist you in finding one if you need help. I am sorry that he is thinking this way. Have a nice life.

Thanks,

Eds

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You have had alot of answers to you r question. Here is another! Get the hell out of the marriage. You are on earth and we have what you cal "diseases". The man is obviously very not right in his mind at all. He is being very manipulative to you and saying that all men are alike. What a crap of nonsense. I am a man and being ,what was that word "euphoric" is no where near my manly mind. Get someone that only wants sex with you and you only!!! Wake up and stop kidding yourself!!!!!!!!

not true. we might think it, but i would never break the vows i made to my wife. he will only bring you heartache and he will do whatever he wants, from the way you are describing him. tell him that you want to hook up with an old boyfriend and have sex, and that its ok for him to do as hes asked you, if hes happy with that then he just doesnt care about you or the marriage. if he flips out, then tell him no way hes allowed to be a gigolo. and the leave him if he does. thats my thoughts on this. good luck