What should I do?

He said he hates you. He said he leaves the house so he can be away from you. PLEASE call off the marriage and leave him now before you get into something that you will regret. He will not change, and neither will you (and neither of you should expect each other to).

You have to pay attention to those tell tale signs that may help you avoid a lifetime of misery. Not to mention those not so subtle statements of hate from your very own husband to be. Even if he is royally mad at you, there is a big difference in words said in anger and a declaration of hate, disgust and all that good old verbal lynching that will no doubt send you crying to your shrink for Prozac. I strongly suggest you reconsider your future with this man, and the prospect of actually bringing children into this clearly dysfunctional situation. Wake up, get some self esteem, call off the wedding, get a job and move out with family or roommates. Not necessarily in that order, but face it, this is only going to get worse.

Good luck, be well.

presuming from your statement, you live in with him!?

Do you have family somewhere around?

If you are in a relation where the respect is so low that the word "hate" is used. Never ever stay. It is obvious that the other party is too immature to address the problem to find a solution and rather insult.

Retain dignity and move on. If you still "love" him, then you should ask yourself "why?" Maybe it is you that is realy causing the problem. Think, if there is a problem, why would you close your eyes and continue loving. Are you secretly enjoying this suffering? If not, stop it.

Good luck

Sorry my dear, but no he's not going to change. He only has you around to dump on. If he truly loved you, he would not be telling you this stuff. If he even cared about you, he would have enough feelings to say, "hey, my feelings for you have changed. I need to move forward but without you. It's not fair for you to be in a one-sided relationship. It's time for us to go our separate ways." As for where would you go...I assume if you're old enough to be in a live-in relationship you can support yourself. Leave...stay with a friend until you find a place of your own. Take what is yours with you and leave what is his. Go forward and have pride in yourself. You are worth more than being told that you are hated. Life is too short!

This seems like a really horrible statement to have come from the same lips that asked you to marry him. What has changed since then that has caused him to say such a hurtful thing? If this is simething that happens often you definately need to go. If he does change it will have to be of his own will, you cant do this for him. It sounds like you are not being treated the way a woman should. I know it isnt easy but talk this out, find out why he is saying these things, try to work it out, but in the end you need to do what is best for yourself. You deserve happiness too.

How can you love him with all your heart if he says he hates you and does not want to be around you. Please don't marry him. You will only end up divorced. And by all means, don't have kids with him. Poor kids!!! Leave him. Move back home or move in with a friend. I am sure that there is someone out there that will love and appreciate you for the wonderful, loving person that you are!!

No, you aren't confused. You are being used! There is a difference. Tell me you can't go home, to family or a friend? Common. You have what it takes to do what you need to do. Get out of that emotionally abusive relationship. He won't respect you ever. He will do this forever! Get out! Live and work all the time if you have to to make ends meet and get him off your mind. He's useless if he treats you that way and you teach people how to treat you. One time and it's over for this girl. None of that use me baby over and over again here. Do whatever it takes and don't wait. don't tell him. Take your **** and go. I wish you luck. Listen to those friends they think more of you than you do yourself. In 6 mos. you'll wonder why you didn't leave sooner. Good luck and God Bless You!

You're planning on spending the rest of your life with someone who "hates" you and wants to be away from you? He's not going to change, people rarely do. If you leave you will establish yourself as a worthy person in your own right, not codependent upon someone who treats you this way. Once you have yourself back together, someone will come along who treats you like a princess and you will wonder what you ever saw in this guy.

letting you know that he hates you is a sign that he doesnt want to be with you . it is a good thing that you know now than after you get married. you may feel like you cant go on without him. he may be the bread winner or you may have kids together but you can always start over. remember that as long as you have life you can always start over. you may have to start all over and it will be very hard but you will get alot better in the end. you may find someone better and have a much better life. think about if you would rather stay with someone who doesnt want you for the rest of your life and end up with him probably cheating on you or worse. get strong and make the best decision for yourself.

He will not change. He might for a while, but it would just be an exterior.

I'm sorry, but why would you stay in this? Be glad it happened now rather than 5 years, a mortgage, and 3 kids later. Go find the one who loves you.