should we????

If you're probably going to be seeing eachother before the ceremony then I would spend a couple of nights apart. It makes everything leading up to that special time more exciting and less stressful.

If you can stand it, my vote is also for apart. Like some of the others suggested, it's a bit more romantic, and the suspense will make the honeymoon better. And since you'll miss each other all night, and then all day you're so busy setting up, and all you'll have time to do is throw glances at each other until after the reception.

My husband and I spent the night together. We had lived together before as well, and there was no one else I wanted to spend the night with. I am not superstitious, so that didn't matter to me. We didn't tell anyone. We let them all think he stayed at our house and I stayed at a hotel, but, he stayed at the hotel with me and left early in the morning, so no one knew any different and we didn't have to listen to them tell us what a bad idea it was. We have been married 6 years and are still going strong! Best wishes!

I.... spent the night with my parents - had a "girls night" with my mom and sister... It was so nice to spend the night apart - although I missed being with him that night. I did see my fiance the day of the wedding. don't let him see you in the dress until the ceremony.

Should you follow tradition then you both would be apart. It is said, "It's bad luck to see the bride or groom before the wedding." My suggestion is, apart. Have friends help with the set up or you both doing it the night before.

I think it would make the day more special if you spent the night apart, but I would do what would cause you the lesser amount of stress. I am sure that u are already under enough stress since you are doing the set up yourselves.

Congrats!!! on your upcoming nuptials

spend the night apart. it will add to the excitement and anticipation of the wedding day. you have the rest of your lives to spend the night together. make this one special.

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I think you should be apart too. My bf and I live together and that is what we are going to do when the night comes.

I am in the exact same situation. We have chosen so stay apart the night before. I will be staying the night with my mom and he will be staying with his groomsmen who are coming in from out of town.

My vote is apart. A little distance makes the heart grow fonder.

Congratulations.