Should I keep doing it?

Maybe he'd rather have you suggest a hot shower with him than a love note. I think of love notes as appealing more to women than men. I used to do stuff like that for my husband and he couldn't have cared less. When I went out and bought a dirty nurse costume,well, he cared about that. I get flowers now. Good luck.

If you feel like you have done all you can do then it's time to talk at least one more time so you can say i tried everything i could. Since you 2 have put in so much time express what you expect and see if he is will to give back in this relationship. Remember it takes 2 you can't do this all by yourself. In case you or him has forgotten it take 2 to make a marriage work it like 50/50 no doubt, he is falling short. Sometimes it takes letting him know you need these thing in this marriage and you don't have to settle for less. I feel there is nothing more important then a spouse that feel you, or in touch with each others feeling. Romance don't stop after so many years it is suppose to get stronger, and if it is not growing with the 2 of you i call that dead. You need to speak now or forever hold your peace, you have nothing to lose.

Absolutely not; don't keep doing it.

Some men are unfortunately creatures of habit.

Of course he's feeling like a million bucks because you are the one that's being romantic and making him feel special. He's sure he has you and you're going nowhere.

In my opinion, just be natural and yourself. Don't do things because you have to so that he will eventually reciprocate; just do them once in a while if you're really feeling like you should. Love is a like a garden with beautiful and colorful flowers when you tend that garden and make sure the flowers get sunlight and enough water to keep that garden pretty and alive. Our emotions and our love for ourselves and each other has to be maintained by good actions and random acts of kindness and appreciation. If not, eventually the lack or reciprocacy will make you have an outburst and it will be too late then. Good luck to you; let us know how it goes :)

I think this could go 2 ways: If he is making no effort, perhaps there's an underlying reason? Either that, or he's just not that type of huggy kissy lovey dovey guy and it's not in him to reciprocate the kind of romantic things you wish for. I think it's wrong of him to show his friends love notes you've given him - it's disrespectful. What's private between you two should be respected. You're right - you shouldn't have to keep asking. You're either going to have to accept that he's just not that way or find out why he's being so distant towards you. It's not going to be easy but at least you'll stop wondering.

Yes, its hard to believe but its not unusual for your romantic boyfriend to be less than romantic once you get married. Its not that he doesn't love you. Its just that he fails to see what's the point in making the effort.

You see, many guys are a bit insensitive. Take your husband - - he has all the sensitivity of a water buffalo. But he has a heart and spirit too, he just needs to get his act together. Sometimes a big stick to the forehead is just the trick. You see, guys don't pick up on hints. They have no intuition. You have to spell it out to him. You have to give him the game plan.

So sit him down and explain how this works. Give him specific details.. (Yes, I know girls want their men to be spontaneous and this sounds so un-spontaneous.) But men are good at working out problems. And men are good at following a routine. And men will do what you want once they can visualize the game plan...

Sorry that he isn't more sensitive, but he sounds like a good old boy.

This is really odd to me you just got married in November and all the romance has left your relationship along with communication. There must have been something that attracted you to this man in the first place for you to marry him but all this writ ting notes and asking for things sounds kind of odd. You should have really thought about this before you said i do. Best of luck

The best thing you can do is stop leaving him notes and things. When he asks you why you aren't doing that anymore tell him that you both agreed to do this for one another not for you to do for him only.

There is nothing wrong with you expecting the same treatment as you are giving.

yes,he should get it.but hes a man,and he doesn't think the way we do.i would bring it up and then ask him how long he expects you to try to make things better for the marriage,with no help from him.then you need to point blank let him know that you need things to and if he doesn't start paying attention to that things will start to go downhill fast.dont just give and give and give,make him do something for you or tell him you will take care of it by yourself,in a different way.stand your ground

I would stop the little love notes etc and see what his reaction is. At the moment he is just lapping up all the 'attention' and giving nothing in return - eventually you will have nothing left.

Take care of yourself & your child. this man sound self centered.

Send yourself some flowers or better yet get yourself a bank account & start saving for the future.