How do I get my husband to be more romantic without having to tell him exactly what to do???

Tell him exactly what you want. He'll never guess. You can show him what you want by doing it for him, but he might now take the hint. In a couple of years when he says something cliche by accident, you'll be so emtionaI about it you'll start crying and he'll never say anything like it again.

I heard something when I was in my teens that people treat you the way they want to be treated. I just applied it to relationships. It really worked, but it doesn't work the other way, unless that person has heard the theory.

Appreciate that he does do some very important things like telling you how he feels about you and that he thinks you're beautiful. These are the really important things. But I would tell him that you'd like him to...sometimes, but be specific. He's not a mind reader. It won't ruin anything to let him know how he can really make you happy. I'm sure that's what he wants to do anyway, and you telling him directly will make that job easier for him and you happier in the end.

Congratulations on your life together!

Now that you are married, he probably feels like he doesn't have to "prove" his love to you... he gave you the greatest gift he can.... his heart! Your relationship has changed and naturally, your going to be missing the "little" things he did when you were dating. Your single friends probably WISH they had someone to tell them how loved they are every day! I've been married for many years now to the love of my life! I count my blessings every day! He tells me he loves me several times a day, and we fall asleep touching each other, even if we don't have sex. He still tells me I am beautiful! and I can still leave him breathless in the lovemaking department! He comes home to me every night; he is a good provider; I want for NOTHING; and every now and again he will do something so romantic, it makes up for all the times he acted like an ***! Because this doesn't happen every day or even once a month, I appreciate it more. Guys aren't good at picking up on hints, so let him know that you miss the romantic cards and stuffed animals, etc. But really, you should feel happy that he tells you how beautiful you are and how much he loves you, for in the end, that's what counts!!! Stop acting like a spoiled 6 year old and be thankful for what you have!

Guy's perspective:

Tell him what you want. The fatal mistake that women make so many times is that they think their husbands can read their minds. Guess what: we can't. It gets worse: Men communicate differently than women, so any amount of hinting you're doing may not get picked up by him.

Specifically, he may feel that your courtship is over and there is a lessened demand for cards, flowers, stuffed animals, etc. If you need that stuff to feel loved, however, then you should communicate that to him.

Marriage is HARD WORK. I think the only harder job in the universe is parenting. Don't let anyone tell you that marriage is easy or even natural; so don't sabotage it by sitting around and waiting for negative things to happen. If you want him to do something, you cannot do it by trying to send brain waves to him. Open your mouth and speak, honestly and plainly and lovingly. He will respond. A man, especially a newlywed, will do almost anything to make his woman happy--but he has to know the she wants him to do it.

your making the mistake in not telling him! never keep anything from your partner that is beneficial to both [people.

always stay open about sex and other health issues becuae these are things that will make your love life smoother! now tell him what you want or would like and also let him know that the love that you both have is great!! also never stay ontop of the other person if you feel that results were not given after you tell him just take it upon yoursefl and DO IT ! use his body as an example if you can and also never tell him what you are going to do make it a surprise.

never make sex routine either, so swithch up a little bit and there is nothing wrong with teddy bears at all when its done every couple of months and space is given between people so that you will allow yourselves to miss each other and crave each others attenttion and love

Firstly, "hints" will rarely work.

Secondly, learning about "men" and "women" and how they work will be the best thing for you, now and the rest of your marraige. It will answer a looooot of questions, just like this.

Ordre right away "Men are from Mars: Women are from Venus." http://www.marsvenus.com/ (probably buy from Amazon though)

Thirdly, in general, men "need" direction. Although it may feel "unromantic" to you to tell him exactly what you are needing, this is exactly what you need to do. As long as you are not trying to "fix" or "lecture" him, or in some way make him feel silly, stupid or like he is not any good at being a husband, you will be fine. A few examples are...

Explain "It makes me feel _______ when you do ___________. "

Can you ________ to me? It makes me feel ______.

Understand, he "wants" to be your superhero. But they need direction. Not advice, nor mothering, but direction. Realize he is the supplier of your needs. He does not know your needs until or unless you TELL him your needs.

Scenerio:

You feel lonely because he's busy working. Inside you are wishing on a far away star that he would come and hold you or hug you.

You either A) keep wishing and feeling worse and worse, and now hurt because he didn't meet your needs and was "supposed" to know your needs because he loves you... or...

B) You tell him, "Honey, I feel lonely. Can I have a hug?" He smiles, feels needed and trusted, and with a superhero strength leaps across the room, sweeps you up, and holds you tight. You smile, and are overcome by emotions of thankfulness because he made you feel so loved. All because you communicated in a way he could understand and meet your needs. Now BOTH of your needs are met. :)

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Why don't you try to do some nice things for him. Leave him a love note. Make him a romantic dinner. Take him out on little surprise visit to somewhere he'd like to go (a sporting event or even out for ice cream). Maybe he'll want to reciprocate! If you're lucky, it may even turn into a tradition!

you can't expect someone to read your mind it's not fair. Either let him do it on his own (which he may never do) or tell him you know it would still be cool to get flowers once in awhile just because.

The only way I can think of to hint at it is to do things like that for him and then say I don't know I always loved receiving cool little gifts so I thought I'd do it for you to show you how much you mean to me.

i wouldn't complain. Ive been married for 8 months and the same thing had happend to me. I just started doing things for him, notes, poems, whatever. He finally saw that those things can still go on even after you say i do. I would try that first.

Otherwise, just let it go. You know that he loves you and that should be good enough.

I understand wanting cutesy stuff so i seriously suggest just showing him that its still ok to do that.

I admit, I had to giggle.. Welcome to the world of marriage. He's got you now, so he's focused on making money, keeping a household up, etc. An elderly lady I used to work with had this famous line "if he tried as hard to keep her as he did getting her, there would never be another divorce". Think about it... that's the truth! Even tho you don't want to, you have to spell it out.... whether it takes some of the meaning out of it, that's on you. Sorry you're feeling like you are.... you are not alone..

Trust me. All guys need to have it spelled out to them. You have to tell him what you want because he won't get it otherwise. We are unable to get the hints women try to give to us. There is nothing wrong with letting him know what you would like every once in a while. Whether or not he actually does it, is a different story.