Why does my fear increase when i build up an almost friendship with someone?

Sounds like you have some underlying issues that your not owning up to or perhaps you don't realize their there, It sounds like you've been hurt in the past by someone you had a friendship with and every time you try and enter a new one your afraid of the same thing happening, only way to make that feeling go away is to deal with the issue from your past and when you get over it, perhaps it'll be easier to move on, but sometimes thats not always the case so I would just take the risk and make friends either way, there is nothing to fear but fear itself courage destroys all fear

*Good Luck*

I dont know but I have the exact same problem.Usually I will figure out a way to get into an argument so I can end the friendship,only when I;ve started to become feel close to them or need them.

You probably have some serious trust issues or just fear losing people once a bond is established.A friendship or any relationship is a big emotional investment.

Never think of them of more than friends. The second you do you will become nervous and you won't know what to do or say which will cause you to mess up your chances anyway. If you believe that nothing will never happen between the two of you then your fears will disapper and your chances will increase because they will see you for you and not you as some pervert who is only after one thing.

Also remember friends can become lovers but never again friends...

It sounds like a fear of intimacy, possibly stemming from insecurities or a bad experience with the opposite sex. You're too scared to open up because you're scared of being hurt. Its a pretty natural fear, but don't let it stop you from taking a risk on someone.

me too. because in beginning u barely know each other and feel safe with the distance. when u get closer, u start to care for this person and feel scared u do something that they may judge you or reject you.

Advise - take the risk to be yourself. if they accept, then is good. if not, dun worry u see if there is anything major flaw in you and u learn from that.

The more you let someone get to know you, the more vulnerable you are to being hurt by them.

Rejection by those whom you invest a part of yourself in is far more hurtful than rejection by complete strangers.

The problem is fear of being rejected/hurt for who you are.

Solving it comes with having confidence in yourself, which often equates to age.

If it's sad person; maybe you don't want to waster your time. It sounds like a girl issue, not a said issue.

Grow some hair and get over yourself.

You never know how much fun picking on someone can be in person if you avoid them.

I totally agree with "Flirtyangel 186", he or she gave the same answer that I was.

Maybe anxiety.

may be anxiety... or fear of losing privacy?,