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My younger brother is unreasonable and unresponsible what do i do?

I am 28 and have a brother that is 26. He and his wife and toddler have moved in with my mom and dad. He continues to lose jobs and his track record with work is causing difficulty in him finding other jobs. No one in my family can approach him with this issue without violent outburst and he doesn't feel he needs any help. The only help he feels he needs is a place to live and financial. Mom and Dad are broke and I'm am getting so upset that I have built a wall between us. When I do get around him the things he says regarding this issue make me want to beat him. What do I do?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    He is living with your parents, so they should have set a time limit on how long they were willing to have him at their house. You can let your brother know how you feel (respectfully) and if he has a hissy, just walk away. If I were you, you could not visit the house and maybe arrange to see your parents and the toddler at your house or at their house when your brother and his wife aren't there. Don't get in the middle of your brother and your parents. Your parents have to set their limits with your brother. You can't do it for them.

    Good luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    You need to stay out of it and stay away from the house he's living in as much as humanly possible. If your parents are so foolish as to let him move in with them then let them suffer the consequences, but there is no reason for you to add to the problem by voicing an opinion or even being available for his BS. That was a horrendous decision to let him move in, so stay away, but at the same time get ready for the fireworks!!!

  • 5 years ago

    properly I even have 4 brothers and that i'm turning 11 on would twentieth.my brothers names are Austyn [age 13] Dawson [age 6] Bradley [age 5] Shawn [age 2] and a million sister named kassi [age 14]. so i ask your self what all of them will appear like in 10 years. I even ask your self what i could appear like in 10 years.

  • Teresa
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    1. Tell your parents to give them a deadline date to get out.

    2. Tell your brother he is not welcome when he gets kicked out.

    3. Tell him that if you find out they are homeless, you will call CPS on them and make sure child is taken and put with grandparents.

    4. If your parents refuse your suggestions, then still talk to them but the minute the conversation turns to complaints about brother, say "Sorry, gotta go!!!"

    Stick to your guns. Sounds like he may be using drugs/alcohol.

  • 1 decade ago

    well as long as he feels he can continue to reply on ur parents he wont be serious about holding down the job. hes probably frustrated and being defensive. ur parents need to give him an ultimatum so he can get out.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Unfortunately, you have to let him fail. He needs to not have help by his family and he needs to get out there & get his own life together. It may take him losing his family & wife & baby to see what he is doing to those around him. Stop helping him and he may change.

  • 1 decade ago

    he need help. oh, and once he gets a job make him pay rent.

    boy needs to learn some manners

  • 1 decade ago

    As long as people enable him, feed him, provide for him he has no reason to work.

    Source(s): The family should give an ultimatum...he gets counseling and a job or he can find another place to live.
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