Daughter problems. My wife died of cancer just over 2 years ago. She was 49.?

When your daughter is happy doing something as cooking with her she likes her,. but her saying she hates her. she may feel like she is trying to take her mothers spot or that she isnt going to be as close with you and now she wont be the only girl in ur life. she is jelous and scared. you have to cutt her some slack. she is 10 and doesnt understand much. spend time with her. and let her c even if u get married she is still the more important person and reasure her that the gf isnt taking her mothers spot of being her mother.

Up until ten days ago I was in a relationship with a man that had twin 14 year olds. I am completely in love with the man. We had an amazing relationship. I believe that his daughters made every effort to cause friction between us. There was a lot that I knew about and much more that I did not. His attitude was that he could not change their feelings if they did not like us being together. I believe that it was really his duty to set a good presidence for his daughters and show that he was standing up for his life and that one day they would have to do the same. We never know what difficulties our children will face. I lost my husband when my daughters were 1 and 2. I have stayed beside them as a mom the entire time, now 8 and 10. I have not made a lot of effort to take care of myself via friends and career. I am now regretting that by viewing other peoples experiences and my own daughters recent response to my life. She said, "I think that your life is over and it is about me." I am 37. I believe that your daughter is confused. Listen to her and help her understand her feelings. Direct her thoughts. She may be in your shoes one day.

Well, I can say, I can't talk to her to see really what it is, maybe more to the story, in most cases it may be.

Shes young so she may be a bit mixed up, you should ask her what it is that she hates about her,, sounds like it could be worked out.

"See" she may need help which I hope you don't over look this, she needs a doctor to see if she is ok,, she lost her Mother, and it may bother her alot, even to this day, many people suffer from a loss. which is what many do. She's lost yet, empty feeling,, please see a doctor and ask him or her about this, sounds like shes needs someone to talk too...

I wish you luck, and hope she gets help... or at least call your doctor and ask them what you should do, as it may affect her in a mental way..

Sorry for your loss of your Wife, it's very sad, but Im sure she would want you and your daughter to live a good life and start a new...

I think your daughter might worry that your love of her will shift to the new partner. She may also worry that she wont be able to talk about her Mum she has lost and may fear you will forget her Mum.

Your Daughter sounds angry and may be just letting out her emotions at the loss of her Mum. She may be angry that your partner is alive and well but her Mum is not.

I would talk to your daughter and try to reassure her that you love her and will never forget her Mum. Maybe your daughter is still finding it hard to come to terms with the loss of her Mum? Could she need some counselling (bereavement).

I am happy that you have found a new person to share your love and life with. And yes you are entitled to be happy again. I am sorry for the loss of your late wife but wish you happiness for the future.

Why dont you sit your daughter down and explain how you feel? She probably misses her mum and is scared that this new lady is trying to take her place, she told you she hated her as she is scared of the change, she may then have gone to bake the cakes with her in case she becomes a permanant fixture in the home and she is scared that she will take her daddy away, and we all want to be liked.

The anger is more directed as you as she loves you more and is scared maybe that you will leave her too.

There's definitely a part of your daughter that likes your partner. The part she hates is the fear she feels. Maybe it's the fear of forgetting her mother, replacing her. Or maybe it is the fear of losing you.

Try to ask her what she doesn't like about your new partner. Ask her simple questions about how she feels and share with her how You feel too.

It's good that you and your daughter are close so having this honest conversation won't be strange to both of you.

You can assure her that the three of you will be together and that her mom will not be forgotten. Maybe she's afraid of losing another mother.

Sounds like your daughter was fine at first as your partner wasn't really defiantly permanent so she wasn't a threat to her mothers memory or to her by taking you away but now to her the Goalpost has moved,she sounds that she likes the input from your partner but to her now it may feel that you are forgetting her mother by moving on and also she may feel that your partner is a replacement,she just needs your reassurance, talk to her alone about her mum and your feelings discuss your plans, ask for her input,she may not feel ready for you to marry just yet,just give time,Love understanding and patience she will come round.

Take yourself back to when you were a kid.

You are not spending enough time with your daughter alone. She sees you having a good time with another adult. She knows that her mom and natural life is no longer and she is still suffering the loss of her comfort zone.

2 years? My brother who was 6 years old at the time found his mother dead in her room. He is 15 years old and he still has not gotten over finding Paula.

I haven't gotten over Paula. Its 9 years later and we are still hurt over her death.

It isn't easy for kids to get over the loss of their parent. Kids don't face things like adults do. This is something that is going to stay with her for years and years.

I know that as adults we tend to shrug things off that we have no control over. I believe that it is right to want happiness and to want to be with someone but, you need to take special time out for your daughter.

If your daughter is not getting enough attention from you it is going to make her dislike the person that you 'are' giving more attention to.

I'm sorry but spending time with your partner and your daughter at the same time is not the same as individual attention.

I am not trying to 'blame' you. I am just telling you how the child's mind works.

I hope that this is helpful and I will pray for you and your family.

There is one aspect that no one is addressing -- what about your new partner? In some respects this about THEIR relationship too. Does she try to discipline your daughter? BAD IDEA. Does she give your daughter room and space to develop the relationship or does she force things and get "parental"? This is a larger dynamic than what is being discussed here...

It sounds like your daughter is afraid to move on with life, she thinks that if you get married and that she gets on really well with your new partner that in some way she is forgetting about,or even letting her mum down. You have to keep talking with her, maybe even get the new partner involved in talks, memories and laughs about her mum, she needs to feel and know that it is okay to move on and that moving on does in no way mean that she is forgetting her mum. Hope this helps, good luck.