brides would you be mad???

i think the dress is gorgeous by the way...

i dont think it should b a problem for you to wear a black and white dress at all...

but just to keep things happy in the family.. i wouldnt wear it. It's beautiful.. why dont u save it for your honeymoon or your reception dress?? and wear something different to her wedding.. c'mon.. it's her day.. humor her.

but i would expect her to run her dress by you b4 your wedding!! i'd tell her she couldnt wear the first dress she picks out... just to spite lol

I wouldn't be mad--I'd be thinkin' "Hey, look at my styly, beautiful friends!" I just attended a wedding a few weeks ago and wore a floor length black gown (I don't have that many dresses in my wardrobe and can't afford a new one right now, so I went with one I had gotten for a wedding a few years ago). Some people assumed I was in the bridal party because it was formal length, but really there were so many styles represented by the guests that it felt like a fashion show--summery dresses, formal gowns, pants suits (for the women). Unless it is a tiny wedding I just don't see why she cares.

But, (there always seems to be a but) if you haven't already bought the dress (which is gorgeous by the way), I would go with something else. I think she is being ridiculous; however, it is probably better to appease the evil Bridezilla than have her beat you upside the head with her bouquet on the big day.

I don't personally see a problem with the dress. When I got married, I didn't care what anybody else was wearing, to be honest with you, with out looking a pictures, I couldn't tell you what anybody wore.

However, with that being said, she is the Bride. It's her day. You could wear it anyway, and have her be mad at you, or you could just find something else to wear. If she's going to be your SIL (for the rest of your life), I suggest trying to keep the peace. Remember you'll have to see her at all of the big holidays and family events, do you really want her to bring up your dress a few years from now (or worse EVERY year)??

I think the dress is lovely and I wouldn't have a problem with it at all (of course, I'm assuming that the dress also looks nice ON you!) If you're not in the wedding party, she really can't tell you what to wear, but since she's soon-to-be part of your family, you might want to appease her and find something else if you can. It would be lousy to start a family feud before your own wedding over something so silly.

Can you still return the dress or wear it somewhere else?

It's a very nice dress. I have been to many weddings in which guests wear black, and even men in black suits with white shirts are ok (except for the fact they can be mistaken for the waitstaff from time to time). The only true white faux pas is for a woman to be wearing an all-white dress. THAT upstages the bride. I have worn lots of colors to weddings, some with white accents, and never thought (or was told) that jit was out of line..

That is a pretty dress. I would tell her that it's not all white and that other people are going to be wearing clothes with white in them. Say for instance a white shirt and a nice pair of black pants is common. You could also say that you had already bought it and with spending all this time and money on helping her out you can't get another outfit. Anyways to answer your question, no I wouldn't get mad. It's not all white and it looks like a cute spring dress.

That is a gorgeous dress and has barely any white in it. I say wear it. You have obviously been so great helping out! I am getting married and I would not mind in the slightest if someone wore that, in fact I would like it. Who is she to presume to tell you that you can't wear that, and I thought I was a little extreme, I would never ever tell someone they can't wear something, if it was very innapropriate I would nicely suggest they rethink their outfit. Just because it's her wedding does not mean she can tell you what to wear! Wear that dress and you will look awesome!!!

Ideally, I'd agree with you. It's a beautiful dress, and I wouldn't mind at all if it were my wedding. It might even make a good bridesmaid's or mother of the bride dress!

However, it's her wedding. You've been doing everything you can to make your sister-in-law happy; why stop now? I'm sure you have at least one other good dress in your closet, or you can get a new one cheap at Dress Barn or David's Bridal or some other discount formal store. Save that black-and-white stunner for Halloween (as part of a costume--maybe as a black-and-white bride), a Christmas ball, or New Year's Eve.

She's crazy. Or just a bit uptight at the moment. There's no reason that should be found unacceptable. It's not like it's all white. It's BLACK and white. Not bride looking at all IMO. She needs to take a step back and chill. Honestly, though, you're better off finding something else to wear. The battle probably isn't worth it. Just tell her that you disagree, give her the reason, and say you'll oblige anyways, and be the bigger person. It isn't worth getting into a blowout over.

I think the dress is beautiful! Your sister needs to settle down and understand people will have white on their bodies at her wedding. You're not wearing a white dress or stealing her big moment. I'm sure there will be other women with dresses that have white or ivory on them somewhere and she can't control what everyone wears.

I think the dress looks fantastic. As long as you look fly, I wouldn't care. By the way, you sure did a lot for not being in the wedding party.

I don't know what to tell you. Is this dress worth a lifetime of unhappiness?