What are some tips?

Hey there! I'm a newly wed been married for almost 9 months!

You will not truly know who you are with until you get married being very truthful! Marriage is awesome! And it has great benefits! But, it is also hard work..To be married and to have a successful marriage requires much work...requires a lot of watching what you say... making sure that what you do is being done in love...a lot of dying to yourself and your own ways...this is just my experience....Since you guys aren't able to go to counseling I would suggest picking up some couples books, just as a general guide... make sure that you and your fiance talk before you get married. Some of the main issues me and my husband have had, has been over finances. You'd be surprised how that has been a HUGE issue..My husband also had children before we got married, so you guys should discuss how you plan on raising your children. do you both feel the same way about disciplining your children etc....what are his expectations of you as a wife...really find that out. And what are your expectations of him as a husband...I promise you the best lessons you will receive though is actually going through your day to day walk in your marriage.... But, I promise you a good foundation is key... oh yeah also get around other married couples who have good relationships as well that would be of great benefit to you!

God bless you and congrats!

I have been married 20yrs and things are better now than when we first got married. A good marriage takes a lot of work, patience and most of all open communication. You both have to learn how to make sound decisions by discussing, and sometimes giving in. Its a give and take. But the more you communicate the more you get to know each other and the closer you become. Good luck and best wishes!

If things were better before marriage, no one would get married.

You do not have to go to a councelor before you get married, you can find all the questions that you need to ask yourselves and each other on line. Just look for 'preparing for commitment'- print it off. It is pretty lengthy (that is why it takes a few sessions) so you will want to do it in segments. You both need to be totally serious and honest while discussing these things. It is designed so that you will know where you may have your troubles. Then you can resolve the problems before they present themselves in real life. Plus, if you haven't been together long enough to know each other very well, it will help you both to know each other just that much better.

Good luck dearie!

I wish I would have set down some rules for arguing before we got married (or resolving a dispute). I would have done something like:

- If we've already argued about it or it happened more than 10 days ago you can't bring it up (and if it bugged you more than 10 days ago you should have brought it up sooner).

- No getting off topic. Keep the arguement about what it's about.

- Work on the problem, not irritating your partner.

- Compromise may be required to solve the problem. Work it out so you BOTH win.

- If someone insults, yells or gets angry there is a manditory 1 hour cool off period before you continue discussing it.

Good luck!

The best advice I can give you that I know is to be able to communicate with each other. You should be able to talk to each other about anything. Of course you're not going to agree on everything but if you should get into an argument that seems to be getting worse the shut the hell up (both of ya) go chill out and discuss it later like adults. You've also gotta have trust. You gotta trust each other like noone else.If ya aint got trust in one another then your relationship has already failed.

Some advice (from my experience , married 15 years, 2 kids)

Don't fuss over trivial things

Communicate

Share workload of home

Sort out financial stuff before you get married ( ie how much to spend..etc.)

Make time to connect and have fun together alone

1. always everyday say i love you

2. never go to bed mad

3. never have male friend that he can know about(internet or other)

4.alway talk about with bothering you TO HIM and not to everyone else

5.remeber its a 247 relationship doesnt mean your not married cause you take your ring off(never take it off)

6. always be supportive

7. when he come home give him at least a hour to get his he together

8. put no one befor him(except childern)

9. even when you argue(which will happen) never be afriad to be ther first to end it with a hug and kiss even when you dont feel like it because it help cool thing down so you can talk better

10. sex as offten as possible even when you not feeling in the mood becuase it help keep a bopnd and relieve stress.

Things are better for my husband and me now that we are married. There is a more openness that wasn't there before. We are more connected now then we ever have been, there's an enhanced feeling of intimacy. When you are looking in his eyes, saying those vows, you know things have changed for the better. Good luck!

ive never been married but i do know relation ships grow apart with time key to holding a relation ship to get there is to build the trust so that if say he Says what is wrong you wont say nothing you will trust in him enough to tell him and if somting bothers you that he is doing you cant just let him continue doing it and pretending you dont care it will build up in you and you will have to let the anger out some time so be open let him know i dont want you to spend that much time out away from home wile i am here but you can go hang with your friend wile im not home any time you want thing like that i just give exampels i dont know your situation

Compromise, communication and committment are the big ones. A sense of humor is essential and so is compatibility.

Make sure you take about your views on sex, children, finances, where you want to live and everything else you can think of before you marry. Agreeing on these things is very important!