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sascoaz asked in PetsDogs · 1 decade ago

Replacing a beloved lost pet with dog of same breed?

For the last year, I dog sat a young golden retriever Mon-Thu for a good friend who was assigned an out of state project with a lot of travel. It was a great dog - playful, good natured and affectionate - and I came to love her like my own.

She died suddenly and unexpectedly in an accident yesterday (while with her owner) and I have been devestated and heart-broken to an extent I would not thought possible. I can't believe how much I loved that silly dog.

But taking care of her, reminded me how nice it is to have a dog around and I think - after some time passes - I will get one of my own. I would like to get another golden - I like their personalities and appearence.

My question - for people that have been through this - is it harder or easier if the new dog is the same breed as the old? Or does gettting another of the same breed make you remember (and miss) the old one more? Is it better to wait quite a while or get a new one while you still miss the old one?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    First my condolences. i am so sorry. that is so sad and tragic.

    i have been through a loss, lost my bullmastiff, and even though a new dog will never replace your dog that passed away, i wish i would have gotten a new dog right away.

    because one, i was so depressed for the longest time, and i believe training a new dog keeps u busy and entertained, and give you the love and comfort and joy,

    you have to be very careful if you get a dog, because your dog will know if you are morning, you can not show the dog you are morning. it was said by Dog Whisperer Ceasar milan.

    good luck,

    please let us know what you decide to do.

    so, yes same breed is fine.......but treat it as an individual....it will not replace the other dog. but will help mend your broken heart.

  • 1 decade ago

    i would go with a differ breed. just because u will want the dog to be the same as the first. my pic is my old dog he pasted some years ago....i was dead set on finding a dog that looked like my mutt...i found pics...on petfinder.com that where darn close...and i came to relieze that none on these dogs could ever be my scruffy expect by coat....so i made peace and loved my other dogs that i already had. would i get a dog that i found that looked like him now yes but its been 5 years.

    getting a dog while u miss an old one is not a good idea. the new one can not fix the problem. and if u are not in a leader state of mind the new dog/pup will walk all over u.

    it depends on u. go look at puppies take a walk through a shelter see how it make u feel...then u will know what is best...and maybe you'll fall in love with a shelter dog.

    never get a pup from a pet store.

    good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    So sorry about the loss of your friend. I lost my beloved Mini Schnauzer, "Elvis", and Just couldnt wait to go and get another one just like him. After a few weeks I found one and I still missed my little buddy. I dont think getting one makes you miss them any less, only time can do that really. But getting another dog of the same breed doesnt let you forget either. But please beware that no matter what breed of dog, not all are the same. LOL My little Elvis was a doll, and a perfect gentleman when it came to everything. He was awesome! The replacement dog on the other hand is his total opposite. She is a total terror and no matter how much I love her, my patient is wearing thin.

    Now I am not saying that this will happen to you, but I am just sharing my experience.

    I think that you should really just be sure you are ready for your new friend despite the loss of the old. If you get one to just replace the memory, (I as did), you may be sorry, or you may not. Depends on the dog really. I wish you luck and hope whenever you get your new friend, the dog is everything you expected and more.

    Good Luck!

    P.S. Tell you friend I am sorry for their loss also.

    Source(s): Experience
  • 1 decade ago

    You will know when you are ready to get a dog of your own - it is an itch that only getting one will satisfy. Try not to only look at one particular breed, keep an open mind, do some research on which breed will suit your situation. Most of all, get the one that tugs on your heartstrings. I know that it was not your dog but I can understand the loss. I lost my girl suddenly this spring and have been ready to get a new one but know that I do not want another dog where I live now (ticks, fleas, etc.) That is why one of my criteria for a new place to live is a fenced-in yard as I would like to go back to a Dobie (had one years ago) but I am not going to narrow my search to just that breed. Cinnamon was a little ball of fur (1/2 chow, 1/2 Ridgeback) when I got her because she was a lover; and she remained that way for the 10 years I had her.

    Good luck with your search

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  • 1 decade ago

    I am sorry for your loss. My wonderful yellow lab died in June. I've had dogs over my lifetime, and have loved them all very much. My animals have always been family to me. That said, the lab breed, mixed or not resinates w/my personality better than any other I've had. I have no illusions about each dog having different personalities, that's nature. I don't want to replace my precious angel, I do want a companion in the same family. If it happens to remind me of her, that will be a wlcomed bonus. There are no right or wrong answers to this question. It is an individual choice. You must know yourself, then no one will need to influence your decision. No one else is in your shoes. I have made that mistake many times before. Learn to be in self referral. That's a gift each of us must learn to give each other. Thanks for reading this.

  • 1 decade ago

    I had a dog when I was little. I am 19 now and it died when I was 10. My family got the same breed of dog we had before and I rarely think about my old dog. Maybe it's because i'm older now? I really don't know. I would get the same breed just because I like that breed. Hope this helped a little!

  • 1 decade ago

    First, I'm sorry for your loss.

    I personally like to switch breeds when one of my pets passes away. It gives me a chance to see the traits of other breeds. I've had a doberman, a rottweiler, a shar-pei, a beagle, and a daschund.

    My friend however, is truly committed to the breed. She has had multiple schnauzers. She loves the breed. It does remind me a little of her other dog a little when I look at the current one, but it doesn't bother her.

    It's up to you. If you really liked the retriever breed and you don't think you will be reminded of her too much, go for it. Dogs are like people, they all have their own personalities. Your retriever may be different than she was.

    When you find the right dog, you will know.

    Good luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I'm so sorry about your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a special dog.

    Unlike some of the other people on here, I don't see a problem with getting another dog right away, if you feel that you want to. When my basset hound passed away, all I wanted was a dog to comfort me. What made her death worse was not having another dog to comfort me.

    Although I didn't get another basset hound, I got a similar-looking dog-- a beagle. I didn't really compare her to the basset, but what bothered me is that it became harder for me to remember my basset's face. Every time I tried to remember her or picture her, the beagle's face would pop into my head. That would be my only warning about getting a dog of the same breed.

  • As long as you recognize that all dogs are individuals, and just because it's the same breed doesn't mean it will have the same personality, and as long as you can accept and love the new dog for the individual that it is, you should be okay.

    If you're going to constantly compare the new dog to the memory of the old one, the new dog will always come up short - and in that case you should probably get a different breed.

  • 1 decade ago

    What a sad story....I'm so sorry to hear about the sudden accident...I'm sure you will miss her.

    No pet can ever be replaced. I had a wonderful buff cocker named Cee Cee and when she died, I couldn't imagine having another buff cocker spaniel because I would always want it to be like her. I waited about 5 years and I bought another buff cocker...but she is so different from Cee Cee. However, because I like cocker spaniels, I am happy to have Zoe because she is so much like a cocker spaniel...she's playful, comical, happy all the time...tail wagging....shes athletic and fun. Cee Cee was all of these things too....but she was Cee Cee.....Zoe will never be a Cee Cee...but she is demonstrates the "cockerness" I love about the breed. I think if you get a golden....you will love it the same as you loved the dog you are missing...but, she will be a new friend and something different to love. She will still display the golden disposition and appearance you desire and you will love it as much, if not more, than your other beloved golden friend.

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