I'm 55 yrs old & my boyfriend is 61yrs old,we will have been together 2 yrs next Sat.?

Follow your heart. You know this already.

Welp I am in the same boat I want to have a serious realationship as well he 62 I am 29 I am a friend with benfits been with almost 5 years he has his house I have mine I stay there every night my question to you though if he says no and you have to get married ask him what he wants maybe you can go from there been married once here no need for it some people just like that kind of commitment or maybe he is scared don't know what I am gonna do cause I feel like a friend with benifits so in the mean time sit back and give him time and carry on like you have been I know it's 2007 but if a man wants to marry you he should still ask so just give him more time

When we all get older we get set in our ways as time moves on. I think he is quite comfortable with how your relationship is, Thurs. to Sun. evenings. "He has his cake and eats it too". If you feel strongly about him, and he does you, then its only right that you both make the total commitment to each other by marrying. You both must feel the love for each and don't want anyone else in your life. Asking him to marry will give you his "true feelings in "how in love he is with you" Go for it and ask! The answer will yes or no. You have been living this weekend lover for two years now when you said that's not what you wanted. So why keep doing this? Tell him you are no longer sitting on the fence post" waiting for him to make a total commitment. Step up too the plate soon because life is moving on. Cocoa

People have fantasies about how things are going to be and some of the fantasies are not good ones either. I would write a sort of book about how life with you would be, so he can see your fantasy and see if it matches up with his. You are thinking about this proposal and ultimatum, so you are prepared, but it may catch him offguard even tho it has been mentioned before. But this time he will realise you are serious. He may not have an answer prepared, tho he has a feeliing he either does or does not want to be married. If he had a happy first marriage he will want to duplicate that, all the nice times. But if it started off well and then deteriorated, he may be afraid that history will repeat itself. Have you both got grown kids to leave your houses to? That is a worry for people your age. If you die first, then he gets the money and then leaves it to his kids. Write in your book how you think your daily lives will be arranged, who will do what and pay for what. Where you will live. What holidays you would like. How you spend your time. Answer all the questions that he may have in his mind. Make it sound better to live with you than to live on his own. Do you have pets? Include them. Include Christmas traditions. If you had lots of money you could make a little video of your ideas and the proposal at the end, you know, when people are askiing Oprah for things, she gets them to send in a video. The most outrageous and entertaining usually win.

I had a boyfriend who imagined that I would get up every morning and make his breakfast while he got ready for work. I didn't know this was in his mind and I stayed in bed cos I started work later. I thought I was giving him space to get ready. Instead of mentioning it after he moved in and noticed I wasn't getting his breakfast, he let it fester and after a month he hurled abuse at me and told me I was the only girlfriend he had who never got up and got his breakfast. So I said that he was the only boyfriend I had who didn't get up and get my breakfast. So you see, you have to think of everything. Before my boyfriend moved in, I never ate breakfast, but at work during morning tea, had sticky buns with everyone else in the office.

I think that you have the right idea. If you love him and want to get re-married, and he doesn't want to get re-married, then you probably have some other conflicts in addition to that. Not only that, you will probably resent him for not wanting to marry you if you stay together. You are at an age where committment is a reasonable thing to ask for and you've spent two years with him, so if he doesn't want to make a committment to you, you should probably break up with him. It would just never make you happy.

Do you need to be married? Is being together and happy enough? The answers to these questions will tell you what to do. Me? I think if I was single again at 55...why would I want to tie myself down into marriage? It would be more than enough to be happy with a special someone. But only you know what you'll be satisfied with. What will make you content? Can you be okay on your own without him?

I f he understands you about not wanting to be a weekend girlfriend, then explain how deeply you feel for him and how you feel about being his wife. Give it a couple weeks to sink in. If he hasn't made a run for the hills then by all means ask him. If he turns you down, ask him why. Really listen to his answer. If he is scared, there is no reason to break it off. If he's adament with his "no" and acts a bit unusual, then you know he's got a skeleton he doesn't want you to know about.

Good Luck. There is really no way to answer you. You have to do what is best for you. Think about what is best for both of you. If you want to marry then ask him and if he says yes then that is wonderful if he says no ask him if it is just more time that he is needing or if it is somethign within your relationship. Maybe he is not ready or if he had a bad relationship before maybe he is afraid. Let him know how you feel it is best to be honest with one another. Good luck..

i'm uncertain what you're question actual is. Are you worried on your daughter with this guy? in case you're particular that her father won't harm her then loosen up. in case you're worried that he would do something then purely positioned him on be conscious which you would be observing issues heavily. as quickly as your daughter is sufficiently previous to appreciate (which would be quickly adequate) have open , age suitable, discussions together with her approximately 'undesirable' touching, preserving secrets and methods etc (you are able to probable get suggestion from well-being specialists or infant abuse agencies how perfect to proceed). you will then the two have the ways to handle any eventuality. in case you build have confidence with your daughter then she would be in a position to continually be chuffed to talk something, even her liked father's behaviour, with you devoid of fearing your reaction. The behaviour in the direction of your teen actual does no longer sound harmless so I too would shop this guy faraway from the domicile jointly as she lives there.

the romantic side of me wants to tell you to take the leap. dive in head first (after you make sure the pool has water). the rest of me still says go for. just before you go for it, look at it from all sides.

why do you love him? (is it for him, is it because of his family, maybe the physical side of the relationship, etc....)

financially are we good? (sounds good. this is important as much as i wish it wasn't)

do your kids like him? (just like you knowing when a kids boyfriend/girlfriend is bad, we can do the same thing with our parents relationships)

both of you having your own houses, your age and all the other stuff really don't matter as much when you really want to spend the rest of your life with somebody.

if he said no, would it change the fact that you love him? making through the hard times makes you closer to each other in the end. so if he said no then ask why and have a heart to heart with him. you may find he just wants to wait a little longer. who knows. if you have more questions feel free to e-mail me.

i think you should bring up the idea more then just throw it out there and pressure him into it maybe ask him what he thinks about getting engaged and staying that for a while

it doesn't seem like your just a weekend gf he spends more time w/ you then he does away

i know 2 couples that are doing what your doing when they get engaged they always break up for a while so its better they are just bf and gf i think might be scared to get remarred since the first time didn't work out guys are weird like that

good luck!