How and when to decline a selling party invitation?

That's exactly why these things are held. They get people into these "sales events" because the company knows that friends will feel guilty about not attending or feel real guilty about not buying.

Just respectfully decline. No harm because the person giving them knows it's not really a social event it's a sales event.

If your wife is getting too many of these invitations and is sick of them, she can and should tell the hostess/friend that she has no interest in the product and won't be attending. Better to tell her the truth and not go instead of attending, wasting everyone's time and money because the hostess need to cater some food for the such parties and she ends up not buying anything. If she declines, at least the host can find someone else who would be interested and who might make a purchase.

HEY yep these parties are business transactions BUT just because she goes doesnt mean she has to buy anything ... i personally dont like purchasing things this way as once the commission is added the product ends up being much more expensive than if you got it at the shops. There is nothing wrong with going and making a social night out of it, chatting to the gals, eating the nibbelies and drinking whatever is on offer! AND if she does host these parties tell her to accept the free stuff but only puchase something if she really really wants it and she thinks life would be much better having it :) thats my motto and im a scrooge hehe .... but having people invite you or hosting one every weekend can get a bit much so tell her to say no if she doesnt feel like yet another party! dont worry her friends should understand a gal can only hear about tupperware so many times before it gets boring!

It is exactly what you said 'selling'.

Its not much different that being approached by sales person in a store, invited in to munch a few sandwiches, eat some dip, then feel pressured into buying something you don't want/need.

I suggest that she not feel that she is hurting anyone's feelings. They will pressure her to come. They have been trained to know what to say (oh, it will be fun, you don't have to buy anything) - the product they are selling is owned by a manufacturer who makes money from their sales. If she goes, eats the food, she will feel as though she must buy something after all this is her 'friend'.

Friends don't pressure friends to spend hard earned money.

A simple 'no thanks' may not be sufficient. How about 'I don't like those sort of 'parties'. Its the plain truth.

I would simply say that you have something else going on that night and if you don't want to be caught in a lie then make an occasion for yourself...Take your wife out to dinner or to a movie, or an overnight getaway. For me, I hate those situations because I always feel obligated to buy something. They're whole purpose is to get you buy something. Your hostess may be a friend, but the salesperson probably doesn't really care about you one way or another unless you buy something.

If it were me, I would decline nicely and say you have other plans.

Good luck!

Absolutely decline. I did one of these parties and that was enough for me! A quick phone call explaining you don't do these parties, or a note thanking the hostess for thinking of you, but go on to explain that you don't buy through parties and would appreciate it if you were taken off the invitation list.

I can be too nice sometimes to turn these invitations down. However, I usually just show up and then purposely not bring cash or my credit cards so that I have an excuse not to buy. Or I just politely tell the salespeople I am not interested in buying anything simply there to see the demonstration.

Since these are friends, not merely strangers or business associates you can't go with "purely business" manners. However these parties are definitely business, not social, events. You decline by saying "no thank you." If a lady's feelings get hurt when people decline to hear her sales presentation -- well, such a frail flower has no place in the world of sales and marketing.

I pressed as to why she can't attend, your wife should be mysterious. "It's just impossible" and "I'll call you if I change my mind."

I strongly dislike these meetings/parties because they do make you feel awkward about not buying anything, yet if I'm not interested in the product, why should I waste my money just to please my "friends"??? I try to avoid them as much as possible.... I've attended a few but sometimes I just tell my friends that I had a previous committment or that I really can't attend, maybe next time...... and it's true, they eventually stop inviting you to those things.... thank goodness!!!

I consider them a social event. If I dont want to go, I decline. However, I'm not above eating people's free food, having a good time and not buying anything.