2nd baby showers?

Meet the baby is a better idea. If it's only been 2 years since your last baby,it's kinda tacky. IMO>

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a second baby shower. Even if it is a boy. My cousin and sister both had second showers. My cousin actually had a third! I do understand how you might feel uncomfortable about it though. I am in the same situation. We don't know the sex of our baby, and we already have a boy. I have pretty much everything but girlie shoes and such.... I decided to avoid the second shower by throwing a "Birthday Party"... A week or two after the baby is born I will have it's birthday party. That way, it isn't a shower, but most people will probably bring a present... (I am not just doing it for the presents, but if it is a girl, I would LOVE to have some pink stuff!) Another advantage is that most people will wait for the party to come see the baby.. That will give us time to get adjusted... Whatever you decide, Have Fun! Good Luck!

I have two boys and had a shower for both. When I was pregnant with #2 I did feel bad that he wasn't going to get a shower, like already before they were even born they were getting the shorter end of the stick then their older sibling. Still, I didn't do anything about it because I knew it would be considered tacky even though I didn't want any gifts, just a get-together. I was surprised, however, by a shower that the ladies in my church had for me though. It was very sweet and I got things like diapers and wipes but mostly I got "mommy" gifts. Bath salts, bubble bath, body lotion, slippers for the hospital, Burt's Bees set, etc. The best part is, now I have pictures of my second son's shower to share with him when he is older.

As far as throwing a "meet the baby" after the baby is born, I am a little weary of that. My second son was born November 10th and I was pressured to attend family Thanksgiving get-togethers even though I thought it was too early. My son ended up being hospitalized for RSV when he was only 4 weeks old and still has respiratory problems now. I really wished that I had listened to my motherly instincts and spent more time just me and baby until he was older. It is a lot easier to monitor people washing their hands and limiting the time baby is being held by others when they are coming to visit you in small numbers then at a large gathering like a party.

I'm not going to. I have a 2 year old son and am 16 weeks pregnant w/ #2. I'll find out in a little under 2 weeks what I'm having and if it's a girl... I figure I will only have to buy the small items (esp. clothes). I already have all of the necessities anyhow.

(I made sure all of the large baby items were a neutral color last time- sage green- just in case the next one is a girl.)

If someone wants to throw you one, I don't suppose there's any harm in it. It's just a celebration for your new bundle of joy. Congratulations!

I know people who have showers for every baby but that is a little tacky. If you are having a girl that's a different sex from your first I think that's totally acceptable. If you really want to throw something to get together with friends and not for the gifts you can always throw like a celebrate the baby party after the baby is born, that way people won't feel obligated to get things but can if they want.

I have 2 boys 21mths apart in age... My mother-in-law hosted a baby shower for my second son. I asked her not too as I thought it was inappropriate. Well, at the shower my husband's family member treated me poorly like I was "asking" for hand outs. I felt very uncomfortable. All I could do was thank them for their gifts & coming. I also stated that I wasn't expecting this & that I didn't want them to think I was... It was awkward...

I like the idea of "Meeting the New Baby" afterwards! This way, you can Host the party & those who chose to bring gifts will do so on their own accord!

I think that a second shower is acceptable. If you want to have one, have one! I understand what you mean about an excuse to get together with people you do not see often. I have a lot of friends who live out of town that I rarely get to see. Even a lot of friends who live in town that I do not see often! Have fun!

Oops...I never knew anyone would think it was rude if you have more than one baby shower... I had two babies and two showers and my mom's planning to throw me a third one later on in this pregnancy. I thought you were supposed to have one with every baby, especially if it's the other gender then you really need new stuff... Hope that helps.

I think it is fine to have a shower for the second if it is a girl and your first was a boy. People realize you have the main items you need but clothes can be quite an expense too. Most people are happy to help contribute. And those that don't agree don't have to go to the shower.

I come from a family where every baby gets a shower. It's fine to have a shower for your even if you have two or more. There's always something that you may need when it comes to children. It's a way of showing them that they were welcome even before they arrived. Whoever stated that one is the limit is wrong. That's their opinion. There is nothing wrong with having a second shower. If someone wants to throw you one. Let them.

Second baby showers are perfectly acceptable. I, personally, never got a baby shower after the birth of my second, and I was a little sad. Not that I wanted people to buy me stuff (I had everything that I NEEDED), but I felt like no one cared as much about my second (and third) babies as much as they did the first. Baby showers are just as much a celebration of a new little life as it is about any of the other stuff. If someone wants to throw a shower for you, then sit back and enjoy! Its VERY sweet of them to realize that subsequent children are just as special as the first born!

** This is an interesting article about 2nd baby showers. http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/family/etiquette/s...

*You could always add a note saying: "No gifts necessary. We just want to celebrate the arrival of a new little bundle of joy." Since its an opposite sex, people will still buy you girl stuff probably. Especially close family and friends, which is usually who these parties are intended for anyway. No one that really cares about you will think its rude or tacky, trust me.