for parents of teens?

This really sucks but honestly this best thing you can do is to let it go now. Let on to your daughter that you are willing to give him another chance and for her sake invite them out to dinner(if you are worried about sexual advances bring them to a restaurant as opposed to your home). Ask her to have him over for dvds etc. at least this way you will not be driving him into his arms. Right now she thinks he is amazing and you are just a nag, so you need to keep positive about it infront of her and allow her to think you are happy about it.

If he is over in your house and they feel comfortable to spend time together infront of you, you are in a better position than if they are not around, at least you can see what is going on.

If he does make sexual advances then at least she may be there to witness-this is an opportunity to make him look like the one who is not willing to make an effort with you.

It seems like you have a good relationship with and you want to keep it that way by supporting her and hopefully she will grow tired of this guy or even better see him for the snake that he really is. Good Luck

I am 21 and when i was 18 i "dated" a much older man or two :) but i was just expeirencing the world and i did not take it serious and i sure would not want to be with someone who would cheat on me. I know this sound crazy but if you KNOW he does drugs and think she is tip the cops off. I know it sounds harsh but since she is young and hopefully has no priors she will just get probate and then you will stop her from throwing her life downt the drain. And if you get lucky he will stay in jail.. have you looked up his record?I do know many younger friends think that guys are the best thing in the world abusive guys and stay with them. Some think they dont deserve better. Remember it is not your fault and sometimes tough love is the only way. Good luck

OK, I am so sorry and I know this is just hurting you so bad but, honestly, in this situation, I feel you should call her and tell her you realize she is 18 and you cannot make her do what you want. tell her you want her and her boyfriend over for dinner, visits, etc. Then say nothing about how you feel to her. I know this will be hard but you have expressed how you feel and if you continue it will drive her away even more. One part of her could be trying to prove she is an adult that can make her own decision and that will drive her closer to him. pretend as much as you can to "accept" the situation. say nothing, no lectures, no advice unless she asks, have fun so she will want to come back. I know as a mother this is breaking your heart. If she feels like you know she is an adult that is capable of making her own decisions, then maybe she will let her guard down and start to realize this is really not the guy for her. I really think this and praying is pretty much all you can do since it is out of your control.

I'm so sorry that you are going through all this and your daughter is choosing this path with her life. My suggestion, comes from personal experience, you need to let your daughter make her own decisions. If you push away by telling her she can't see him, she will see him by not letting you be involved. However hard it may be, allow this man and your daughter to come and have dinner with you. You have to right now accept the fact that this is who your daughter wants to be with. Don't always listen to rumors. One day, she will wise up to this man. I just hope that she was educated enough to protect herself. As far as preventing pregnancy and the such. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you and your daughter.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It hurts to see our children make mistakes that we know are mistakes, but they don't know that yet. They have to spread those wings and experience it for themselves, and it is going to hurt you and the child, but it is also part of growing.

You need to be strong, you need to tell her you do not approve, BUT you are always there for her and love her unconditionally, and the door is always open for her.

Thats about the best you can do right now, and I know that is not what you wanted to hear and I am sorry.

Remember when you were a child and you didn't always think your parents knew anything. I do and I try to keep those thoughts for when my own children do something I don't like. Good luck. I hope all works well..

You would just have to bite the bullet and hope your daughter learns from her mistakes. It's hard, I know, but she has to deal with the consequences of her choices.

Once she gets pregnant by this dude, welcome her and the child into your home. You still have the right to be a grandparent!

Yes it is hard to do but you need to accept him until she realises what he is if you do not you will lose her. Every time you argue about him you push her further away.At least if you have him in and around your home you also have her.At least you and her father are a united front on this. GOOD LUCK.

Her life her choice.