Is it fair?

no! dont pay his bills, he's using you! DONT let him do that to you!

No not really. What kind of guy asks to borrow money from you after only 1 month.

I mean if you two were staying in a Hotel so you could see each other like if you lived a few states away and met in the middle or something and split the bill maybe then yeah.. but from the info you gave no way! He sounds like a deadbeat.

It was my 18th Birthday and we ran out of booze. I was talking to my friends and didnt notice that. My boyfriend at that time came up to me and said - we need more vodka, if you give me money I will go out and buy some more (after he finished probably a bottle of vodka himself). Hah. Sweet. I was gutted, I could not believe that he could not buy a couple of bottles on my Birthday with his own money (after giving me a crap present). I gave the money, at the end of the Birthday we broke up. I dont think a REAL man should make you feel weird about money issues. Even if he doesnt have any he can borrow some, or get a better job or whatever. I am not a materialistic b-itch, but i think that men who dont want to pay for their girlfriend (especially in the beginning) are losers. Sorry, guys. I am old-fashioned. I believe that men are men and women are women and it will always be like that. If you really like a girl, you have to make the effort. Your boyfriend sounds like a scumbag to me. Run. If a guy is stingy with the money, he is also stingy with the feelings.

You've only been in the relationship for 1 month and he's already taking advantage of you.

Find a man who wants to SHARE your relationship.

For crying out loud, take money back when he offers it. You worked for it. You shouldn't have to be paying for things like hotel bills. If he wants you that bad, he'll be willing to part with some cash from his own wallet. He's a cheapskate.

Oh, Jesus! This tosser is just USING you. In a relationship for a month and he's borrowing cash and YOU are paying the bills? Tell him to beat it. Better still, wait until the next time you are in a restaurant/hotel then walk out on him. That'll teach him to be such a bloody leech!

definitely not fair, but it happens.

I don't really know what to say. My husband and I were together for 10 years before we got married.

When we met I paid for everything because he didn't work. Everyone used to tell me to get rid of him because he was a user.

Eventually I told him that I was happy to pay the rent and get food but that I just couldn't afford to pay for cigarettes and going out and stuff like that.

I stuck to my guns.

My husband did get a job and he pays more than his way now without me having to ask.

I am glad I persevered with him because I always knew I loved him and I think true love means that you will make sacrifices for the other person but also that you want them to do things for themselves.

My husband was very depressed when I met him .

So the answer is - what sort of guy do you think he really is?

I also think you should never lend money you can't afford to lose.

Absolutely NOT. Do NOT give this man any money. ONE month dating is NOT a relationship yet! This guy is taking advantage of you. Drop him and go to the next one!

When you're a few years into a relationship you can help each other on financial issues but this is not your case.

It isn't fair. He should not use hotels if he can't afford to pay for them. He is taking advantage of you. You should cut your losses and run for the hills before it is too late. On no account should you stay with him in the hope of ever getting paid back. It won't happen.

Do not pay his bills. Tell him to get a job and help you out. You are the lady of the house. Tell him to be a man.

Sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Give him the boot and tell him to get a job and start earning money of his own instead of borrowing yours.

when u first meet someone and don't know them well it is wrong to borrow, he sounds as if he is using u and will continue to as long as u allow it. i would say he is a jerk and not a person u would want to be with for the long run. go find a man who is willing to pay his way and yours also.