I need some advice from Christian divorced men/women, serious answers only please?

To begin with I am not telling you to or not to....I have wrestled with the same and I will tell you as it was told to me and not by the man in question.

God made humans, he knows our flaws, he knows what we are capable of and that is why Jesus died on the cross. To reconcile his creation to him because none were without sin. Consider....everything that is a sin...now do you live a sinless life? No, no one does. Ok....when did the day of salvation occur? The day Jesus Christ died on the cross. What sins did he die for? All the sins of the world.....were they all comitted at the time he died? No. Salvation is a gift that none should boast. Do you think (and no man can actually know the mind of God) , but do you think the Creator of the universe has nothing more to do than see who is doing What with who? Hmm? God is the only one who can in his mind judge you and the reasons behind what you do or don't do. We can try our best and should; but we are not with out sin and we never will be. Is this physical sin as bad as a sin that would be used in the name of God to benefit one's self by a deceitful way? I don't think so. but I'm not God.....It is not all black and white and you have to decide for yourself. There is a difference in being a run around and having a significant other in your life. Again God created us, who better knows how our nature is? Your decision...but think about it, and choose with your peace of mind and heart.

The longer you hold out on your own strength, the weaker you will get. The devil will 'custom tailor' your downfall, by sending this one who challenges your libido.

The devil however never allows success, if you give in to it, it WILL FAIL and you will feel worse for the wear after the moment has passed and may lose years of recovery time.

Your Lord knows your heartache and loneliness but you are going about it the wrong way..

Jacob had to travel to Laban's to get his wives. Sometimes you have to go beyond your normal Christian community and join some other Christian communities, online or at other churches. My friend was divorced and getting desperate and joined a Christian Radio singles support group as well as some online. In person groups are better for meeting and relieving the isolated feeling you are experiencing.

I am going through the same as you but I did make the mistake you are contemplating and it was disatrous on the very same day so I will never 'give in' again and have lost years in recovery as the shame it brings your soul is very hard to contend with... those pleasures of sin for a season will bring such a spiritual depth of depression that what you have experienced til now will pale in comparison.

I am recovered now and faithful but have ceased my search for a mate. I would spare you that and encourage you to do as my friend did as she met a minister and was married shortly thereafter to him. This can happen for you as well.

Most Christian radio's have lists of churches with single support groups and those looking for new spouses and you would do well to start seeking the Lord's will for you and joining such a group. You will feel shy and have mixed feelings at first, but go there and just meet other single men and women and share your concerns. Your perspective will be strengthened and trust in the Lord and he will give you the man he wants you to have.

For me I have multiple health issues now that preclude me from seeking a new mate. I am also probably much older than you so would advise you not to mess up your window of opportunity as time waits for no one and my mistake was settling for someone that ony claimed to be spiritual until he was able to get me to compromise only once and after the dance I never heard from him again after what seemed an appropriate courtship. Never compromise your trust in the Lord. I thought I was doing alright til my libido kicked in one day when I was very vulnerable and no escape was available so I relented and knew the moment it happened that there was no way to make wrong right.

You will never find happiness outside of the Lord as you are his daughter and he is jealous for his own.

You are free to marry again but only to someone in the Lord.

If you arent finding your mate in your church, visit others.

GBU~Ave

I have to agree w/ the 1st, 3 out of only 4 answers.(so far)

Each person gave u good Biblical advice.

Hold on to Jesus, lean upon him,

let him lead ur path.

If the love & respect are there;

they will only grow, as u 2 wait.

I wasn't always a Christian.

None-the-less, I waited 8 mos.,

b4 my current husband & I became intimate.....

21 1/2 years later......

we are still married.

Says 'something' for waiting, yes?

I am not divorced but I am a Bible believing Christian.

Matthew 19:9

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

He committed adultery, this was the only reason Jesus allowed to divorce and remarry. The only exception.

As far as the physical aspect of marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

You cannot be christian and divorced dear. However, should you decide to live a normal life you should seek help from a psychiatrist that can help treating your schizoid delusional mental disorder. You will then be able to get rid of your religious superstitions and delusions and start to enjoy life again.

Go for it dear !

Restrain from your desires, these are desires of the flesh and I can understand where you are coming from the bible states it is better for them to marry so that you won't be inflamed with passion. what ever you do pray and persevere in it and if you do make a mistake go to him Jesus and repent and ask him for forgiveness, keep trying and i also know you are human.

Look up to God and do his will, he knows your wants and needs but it is on his time. We all have those desires, even in our church, that is small, we have the same problem. I see in our church, that it would be better to find some outside the church that has the same values. Sometimes it happens in chirch but most of the time it does not.

I was able to save my marriage thanks to my family and friends. I also read a lot about marital issues and tips on how to save your relationship. The ebook on this site helped me a lot http://savemarriage.toptips.org/

Check it out it's worth it.

Please PRAY You can ask God to "Hem you IN" and Not allow anything in your life that is not his will and also he promised not to allow more temptation than we can bear but make a way of Escape. I think the key is getting up each day and asking for his will and asking him to protect you from the plans of satan (deliver you from evil). Ask God to choose your spouse. :)

If you divorced for any reason other than infidelity then the New Testament says you can never marry again.

If you did it would be considered perpetual adultery.

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