Can we lust after many kinds of things like cars,homes, money,married men after youthful people not our mate?

you can 'lust' after anything you want - that's your CHOICE. Nobody nor any entity is forcing you to be immature - that's your doing. Depends on how weak minded you are.

As far as the 50's, the reason marriages 'worked' was because there were no services or supports in place to help a woman leave and live on her own. Dang - she couldn't even have a checking account in her own name - she couldn't sign a lease on her own - day care didn't exist and the classified ads were segregated into "Jobs for Men" and Jobs for Women." It had nothing to do with 'real needs' - it had to do with lack of choice.

It is kind of naive to think that people didn't lust after anyone in the 50's (i.e., the era of the "traditional family"). The truth is they did but some controlled it better. That's when we still had some morals. Also, it wasn't like it is now. If your spouse cheated, you DID NOT get a divorce. Because families stayed together at that time does not necessarily mean infidelity was any more- or less rampant. It was just less open. Women were taught that they should not leave their husbands, no matter what. Even if he beat them, even if he beat their children, even if he molested their children, the women were taught not to leave. It was a disgrace to get a divorce in those days, or even to think about it. It's not like that anymore. So I guess all you really got was not always people who treated each other better; all you really got was people stuck in marriages they were unhappy in.

You are still going to lust after people if you are married. It's human nature. There are always going to be people or things you want that you can't have. The thing is being mature and committed enough to CONTROL yourself. Thar's what the committment of marriage is all about: sacrifice.

back in the 50's, people had affairs, and lusted after people who were not their mates, but most of the time they never left their mates, because back in the 50's there weren't the no fault divorces, one could not get out of their marriage that easily. we have become a society of selfish people its all about us, we lust, we confuse love with lust, we no longer sacrifice for the other we live to get what we want when we want it, and if we don't get it it is easy enough to leave a marriage, and begin with someone new. because there are no consequences the courts hold no one responsible anymore. the only hope is for people to know god and his will for us so they will know how to live life the way it was intended to be lived.

Without going into the religious aspects of society, I make this brief comment.

We have forgotten how to communicate. I have been on this site reading comments about people who have cheated, lied, and mistreated others. I have read responses that men are that way, or women who act like that have a problem.

I just responded to a question that was 2000 words long where a college co-ed talked about her sex life or lack there of with this false little cyber world, as though that's normal. Unfortunately, the truth is that this has become normal. There is much less face to face communication because it is so much easier to edit your words as they freely flow into a laptop. It is much easier to tell everybody how they should feel when you don't have to confront them and see the pain in his or her face as you cut them down to cyber-size.

Intimacy is expressed in acronyms and emotional response is deal out three letters at a time. lol!

Enough of this cold cruel world.

I have to get back to work.

Ummm...okay...

I think a normal person has interestsattractions to other people/things. A normal person can control those impulse and desires.

We do get used to things being a certain way, being easier and more convenient. We can adapt if need be. We can adapt if we truly want to.

We make the choice. We choose who to love, where to live, what to do. We choose what to accept and what not to accept. We choose to be a victim or a success. We choose to stray or be faithful.

We choose to recognize right from wrong and abide by morals and ethics.

We can choose to stay or go.

The business world does what society tells it to. If society didn't pay, business would fail. So, it society at fault...not businesses. It's like people blaming guns and not the guy who held and used it.

I think I answered your questions. At least the ones I chose to.

Your right.....alot of questions!

My only comment is this: back in the 50's, there was less population. BUT there was still married folks being unfaithful, but divorce wasn't made or done then until the 70's when the world was suppose to have free LOVE!

We all lust after something................being "food", homes, cars, or the good looking gal next door.

People have always lusted after things. It happened in the 50s, it happened 2,000 years ago, it happens now. "Simple needs" is a myth. Yes, "lusts" can be controlled to an extent. But some lusts are natural enough and harmless enough to be tolerated. One who doesn't "lust" after anything is one who does not achieve anything, for ambition and motivation is a form of "lust."

times have changed and you'll have to accept that. the 50s were not all that really; they were just a prelude to our world. so are you in a position to have your desires fulfillled or are you giving a moral lecture defending your current lack of fulfilment? we have lusts and desires. that doesn't make us less spiritual. one has a body and a soul and both have to be fulfilled. but i do agree that the world needs more love. if human relationships were any better i don't think so many ppl would have to visit shrinks to get their lives straight. but again , that's the modern life. complicated. enjoy today with it's ups and downs. 50's are dead but we are here. alive.

The too available credit card has ruined us all.

Ummmma......DUH!