Need advice on ending relationship and moving on?

I suggest a clean break no contact. He wants to play around and still keep you on the side as a sure thing. I would tell him to not let the door hit him on the way out. You deserve to be treated much better than that.

He gave the dog to you as a gift so it is yours not his. The dog will not miss him at all.

You know what goes around comes around you may not be around to see but it will happen believe me. Time really heals all wounds its a trite saying but it is true. Just take care of yourself, eat well, exercise and pamper yourself. It will hurt for while but one day you will be over him and ready to move on.

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There is no way to end it you will always think about him! espeially since he has been in your life for 6 years that is hard! for six years you had pretty much a route that u did which involed him! now you will have to fill all that time you spent with him with something else. Which will be hard! I know I am kinda in the same situation! Just the thought of him being with someone else makes my sick. Everyone says "You will find someone else you are young beautiful, indepent, blah blah blah!" I know it is hurting you but you will be more hurt if you have a friendship with him it is best to cut all strings! I actually find myself wanting to call my ex and I know this sounds silly to do but to stop myself from making that call I go and put my cell phone in my car so I will not make that call or I leave the house with out my phone. Try to be STRONG!!!

Six years... It's probably going to be a long time before you actually get over him. I saw in a movie, I think it was a comedy but that's not important, that for ever 6 months you were dating, it's one week of grieving. That's a good 6 months for you to really get past these feeling of depression and jealousy. He's a jerk anyway if he leaves you when you're down in the dumps and you were there for him for 6 years. Learn a lesson from it and try to get back out there and figure your own stuff out.

That's one of the issues that comes up when you play house unfortunately. It'll probably end nastily because even though it was a gift for you it was given for the joint enjoyment of the household so to some extent he has the same rights to the dog as you.

But it would be a little silly to stay in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship for the sake of a dog though.

It takes a long time to get over a loss of love! All your hopes and dreams of the future are dying. Don't be his "friend". He's not been much of a friend to you, so he doesn't get to have that title. Just move on, alone, without him. Ask to have full custody of the dog if you must. This guy took everything good you had to offer, pee'd on it, and now wants to leave you. Let him go, but do not ever give him the pleasure of your voice again. He doesn't deserve it and you need to heal.

You let yourself feel bad for a little while then you get out there and meet new people. Keep yourself busy and when you are ready you start dating. No one ever died of a broken heart. You are smart to make clean break. The dog is yours as it was a gift so you keep him you need his company. I wish you well. We’ve all been through a heartbreak and we survive and hopefully learn and become better people

You need to realize that its going to take time to heal, and sitting around moping forever will put you into depression and thats not a good thing for you. Move on gradually, hang out with friends, do things that will keep your mind off of him and take things like pictures off your walls and stuff, anything that are reminders of him, untill it gets easier. Im sorry you are gonna go through that, its not easy and it hurts badly but having supportive friends will help big time.

Six years is a long time to drag out a relationship with someone who didn't love you. (No, he didn't love you.)

Take the dog, get your own apartment and avoid all contact with him for at least 6 months. Surround yourself with friends and family, go back to school or start another major project and get on with your life. The sooner you start, the sooner this will all be in your past.