Please? Moms Where Are You?

Hi I guss im not supposed to answer but im 13 and you did not over do it. Im a virgin do not date and only interested in having friends and doing well in school. Yes it is sad with all these questions around its like you have all your life to live and you make all your worst mistakes at such a young age doing drugs and getting pregnant. I know people who are like that but I must say i am not friends with them. Your not strict your just being a mom and no you dont over do it my mom dose the same thing i dont mind I love her and she's just doing her job protecting me and I wouldn't change that for the world I love her too much. Have a wonderful day :^)

Knowing where the kids are going, when they will be back, who they are talking too and what the homework is is just what parents have to do. Sure they need some privacy and trust at 14 or so, but these days you have to be careful with the internet and all. What they talk about on the phone to their friends is something they have to want to share, but you do need to know who they are talking too. As long as you have told them the important stuff, riding with strangers, drugs, smoking, sex, all that then you have to have some trust and also keep your eyes open and just keep the conversations going and hope they learned. sometimes one chance is all they get, so you do have to be strict with who their friends are, where they go and the internet. Good luck

Most times if they mess up, it still works out OK,(eventually)

Your a worried mom, and that's not a bad thing, I would rather my kids be safe than out drinking or getting raped by their 16 yr old puppy love interest. I have an 11 yr old daughter and I do the same to her, she wants a cell phone, but she doesn't need one at her age. I think your doing great, always keep tabs on your kids, and when they are old enough or show responsibility so u can trust them than lighten up a little. But for now, I don't think your too strict.

Speaking from this Moms opinion, you're doing great!! I did it just that way too and my mom did it to me. My daughter is now 22 and we have a very open and mature relationship. I broke into her diary and went through her closet, as a parent it is your right. My dad was a police officer and nothing was sacred in my house either. My dad use to love to say "you want an opinion....turn 18". Anyways no worries, smile and know it's your right.

Absolutely not. I agree with you. i am the same with my kids. I even randomly checked their e-mails, texts and myspace accounts. I find out a lot of things. Kids now a days want to grow up too fast and they get themselves in a whole lot of trouble. I have busted my daughter by doing this. I have strong instincts and of course when you confront your own kids, deny deny deny they will do. I always have prove that my instincts are right. As painful as it may be, I need to know what my kids are doing. They say "privacy or free country" I say "not in my household". I am behind you 100% on this. You wouldn't want to find out that your kid is taking drugs, alcohol drinking, having sex and other bad activities. They have to know who the boss is and they need to know that we are on top of them and any misbehaviour will not be tolerated.

no you are NOT over doing it as a parent. its unfourtanate that there are not more parents like this today. or there wouldnt be so many young teens and pre teens asking dating questions i guess thats good mature adults are on hereto hopefully give them some insight. I vistit and sit in my 7 yo class at times i make it my buisness. i dotn leave his education all up tohis teacher. I wouldhate my self if my kids grew up to resent me for not being there 100% i am there parent not there friend but on the same token my boys (one is only 17 months) they can come talk to me abt anything. I dont have any friends i havent gone out with my husband in 3 years it isnt healthy for our relationship but the only me time i get to actually socialize is on answers.

But i do not preach to my kids i try my best to lead by example and the kids will pick up on this. if i live it then they will too and i wont have to nag them question them. it works for me. your kids do have to breath u dont want them to rebell later on. i agree with your parenting skills and your opinion on younger teens on here id say yeh just trust your kids talk to your kids one on one and then you will not have to be on your teen girl as much.

You GO girl! I feel the same way! If more parents were that way we wouldn't have 1/2 the problems we have with the youth of today. Parents think that as soon as their kids hit 10 they don't have to parent anymore...THAT is when they need us most.

We are not supposed to be their friends right now...they need parents!

My mom is the same way. It's not really overdoing unless you start getting mad when they don't want to tell you about their day or wahtever. As a teen though I can't stand it when my mom tries to know everything about my life when I'm not at home. It's just annoying.

a million. Avery - If that is a woman, teen mum, yet while that is a boy, i'm guessing older. 2. Amberlynn - teen. 3. James - teen. 4. Lauren - Older. 5. Ryder - teen. 6. Braydon - teen. 7. Paytin - teen. 8. Lucas - teen.

You are doing just fine...just remember that at some point they need to learn how to make their own decisions and work with the consequences....but the rest is basically protecting them, and I'm all for that! Go Mom!