Have you ever been to a wedding that you knew how much it cost and was disappointing??

Yeah, I did. I went to a wedding recently, and the food was really ordinary. I know they were paying well over $120 a head ( the whole wedding was like $40,000)and i was expecting something really special. But the meal, I have had better in a counter meal at a bar. I guess I was expecting it to be awesome for the price.

And the way the room was set up, the bride and groom's table was out on a terrace and most of the guest tables were in the venue, big french doors opened out onto the patio. Two of the tables were behind the french doors and we couldn't see past them to the speeches or even see the bridal table, unless we got up and went for a walk.

And they did the cake cutting in an anteroom. Once people had crowded around we couldnt get in to see the cake cutting. All in all I was a bit disappointed knowing what they paid for it all.

The ceremony was beautiful but I think it was a case of the venue not being big enough or used to catering for so many.

The cake was super yummy tho... :-)

Yes. I honestly thought the couple was lying about the cost (but that's an issue all on its own).

Their wedding wasn't bad, it was standard "average". For me, that would be a kiss of death. Especially if I was spending a good chunk of change.

See, a good wedding is not *necessarily* about spending the most money, or even a lot of money (but that helps).

It's about creative ideas and personal touches. And that reflects the creativity of the couple. When the couple is fun and innovative, I as a guest feel excited about the event.

Now, sometimes things just don't work out, and it's really not the couple's fault. The regular chef may have been sick with the flu that day, and the sous chef took over. DJ's can be sneaky people. They may seem like they have a clue when you first meet them, then play "Until He Cheats" as the opening song. Seen it done, if you can believe it.

Disasterous results may happen if the couple doesn't research venues and check customer reviews. I did this online for my venue (a hotel). Price is a factor in getting a good venue, but not always the main one. You just have to look around.

Anyway, usually the couple thinks their wedding went well, so just let them enjoy their wedded bliss. ;) Ignorance IS bliss, right? Either way, the wedding worked, and they are married, so something went right.

I have to be careful what I say, because things can go horribly wrong at *any* wedding, even if well planned. You never know! I haven't had my wedding yet, so who knows!

A wedding, true, is about starting a life in marriage. But if supporting the couple and being there on their big day, and having a wedding day is all you want, you can do that for $50.

What we mean is dropping a bundle and getting squat for it. I get it!

I went to a wedding, where I don't know what it cost, but it had to be a lot. Somehow there was something hollow about it. I looked around and though everything seemed in place, and looked nice, I felt it was all phony. The food didn't make me sick but I don't remember what I ate, so it was unmemorable. The favor was a small picture frame that held our table placecard. It tarnished badly and I threw it out later.

Maybe it was my precognition working, because the marriage lasted about 3 years.

In my area 33K is about average for a wedding, so if that's the case then yes, I have been sorely disappointed/bored grossed out by the food etc. But I went to a wedding that was ridiculously expensive (over 70K) while overall it was fun and I was disappointed in the music, all that money and the band too way too many breaks! Also, I thought the centerpieces were ridiculously over the top! They just didn't need to spend as much money as they did. I've been to real low budget weddings that were soooo much fun, but the music is always key!!

I don't know how much the wedding cost (it was a decent amount of pocket change though), but when a friend of mine got married last year, I could've slapped her. We were working together at the time at a doctor's office, and all me and another friend/co-worker heard from the time of her engagement to the day of the wedding was a lot of stress. Money for this, that venue wasn't available, that church costs too much, etc. We literally pulled 3 gray hairs out of this then-21-year-old's head. I helped her with addressing her 200 invitations (her handwriting isn't all that great), putting the little ribbons and labels with her and her hubby's name on the bubbles for when they left, and a few other little things that I didn't want her stressing over. She even had to be put on medication! On the day of the wedding, I sat down in the church at 2:55, the ceremony started at 3:00, and ended at 3:05. She'd stressed herself almost to death for a FIVE MINUTE CEREMONY! It was pretty, don't get me wrong. But for what I've guess-timated it cost and the time frame it was presented in, her stressing simply was NOT worth it! Not to mention the fact that we live in Georgia and she decided to get married in JULY! The guests were going OUTSIDE to cool of at the reception! Me and the other co-worker still haven't let her live it down.

Rarely might an officiant say that. There was once a time ago wherein ministers have been liable for making definite that the couple would legally marry. Today that's dealt with via the federal government frame that problems the wedding license. If the couple has a license, the minister can leisure realizing that they have got the authorized correct to marry. If anybody have been to item, the officiant might surely forget about it or ask the character objecting to be fairly or depart.

yes! i have!!!

im actually no longer friends with the person whos wedding it was, but thats a whole nother thing all together.

anyway, i was the maid of honor in my ex-friends wedding, and actually my husband and i were married 6 months before her, and durring the planning of our wedding all i ever heard out of her was how much better her reception site was, hw greatthe food was, how they were having this amazing open bar, and blah blah blah.

they also got married in the same room as the reception. bad, bad bad!

it was so unorganized, as we were all walking down the asile we practically on top of one another, the stage for us to stand on was maybe 5feet long, and she had 14 people just in the bridal party.

the bridal party was supposed to have appitizers set aside for us to eat after picture, and that didnt happen. they served some expensive steak, that i didnt even eat because it was just gross!!!! it was litterally blood red on the inside, and they put blue cheese on top (so gross!!!) the vegies were salty, and the potatoes had no flavor.

i thought it was pretty funny that they spent around $60 per person, and a lot of the guests didnt eat. the food was that bad!!!

every other wedding ive been to has been great!!

I went to a wedding that I know was expensive and it was disappointing. I heard catering was $85 per person which actually was very inexpensive for the location. My wife and I did not eat our dinners we left early and then went out to eat. Children at my were being promised fast food after the wedding. More than half the adults at my table didn't eat their dinner.

What matters is that she had the time of her life and was happy with her day. When you get married and spend months planning your wedding, you wouldn't want anyone to negatively criticize your choices would you? Yes, weddings are expensive and if you aren't careful, you'll pay too much. But the money spent isn't the point of the whole celebration. It's about witnessing the couple make their vows and taking part in the joyous occasion. Even if the food wasn't all that great...

I'll play!

To tell the truth the more expensive the wedding the more dissapointing I have found they can be. Budget brides have to be crafty, really hunt for decent quality, and quite frankly can't afford to be taken in by the wedding industry sharks.

When you have a huge budget you don't have alot of motivation to check the quality or negotiate for better deals. You just say OK, write the check, and move on to the next "must have" on the list.