WHICH IS RIGHT??? I NEVER KNOW...I want to know which is right?

Personally, when i fight with my husband i say the things that I know will hurt and vice versa. He always says things that he knows will bother me. He doesn't really feel that way, he just knows it will hurt. Anyway, I dont mean what I say when Im angry and I hope that helps.

I think that every once in a while it can be either. Sometimes one may say something out of anger with the intention to hurt the other person, not because it is true; also, there can be slips of the tongue where the unpleasant truth comes out in the heat of an argument.

But if someone constantly says things to hurt or humiliate the other person, then it's none of the above - it is simply a sign on a disrespectful, mean, or possibly controlling and abusive person.

When you're angry you are on the defense and the offense at the same time. You think things and say things to hurt your sig other/spouse and things that bother you come out, but it isn't anything that can't be resolved. So what about you? Is everything you say inthe heat of the moment true or is it to cause hurt?

I think for the most part...people will say just about anything to hurt their significant other...perhaps there is a small part of truth in some things that are said....but I know that I have said some ugly things that I KNOW that I would really never wish on my spouse.....when you are really angry...you don't think rationally about what you are saying...that is why I try to walk away...so as to not say something that I will later regret.

both the statements are true to some extent.

I sometimes say stupid things in anger, but I do not mean.

But mostly truth comes out of my mouth when I am in anger.

Personally, when I get in a heated argument with my hubby, I am just so tired of fighting that I will say the worst possible thing I can just to have him stop talking to me. It's not necessarily something I mean, but something that I know will get to him so much that he will drop the argument. Thank goodness we only have a blowup once every few years.

I think when we fight and say things, we usually don't mean it. When you are fighting, you obviously want to be the one who's right, so you say things you don't really mean to try to get to the other person so they will break. It doesn't mean you are saying things that you really feel per say, just things that come out before you really have time to think them out long and hard or time to think about how it's truly going to make the other person feel.

I think it's both. Sometimes the truth comes out, sometimes it's just the anger/drink talking and really has nothing to do with the person.

I once told my husband I hoped he died old and alone - I was mad, it was totally hurtful but I didn't mean it. I think the truth comes out when people are rational and have a reason to be honest (ie. they serve to gain etc)

I think people say alot of things out of anger that they really do not mean.