Why won't my husband touch me?

Ok if he's old enoughh to be doing all that, he SHOULD be mature enough to give you better reason than "i dont feel like it" . Get him some rubber gloves or something, just make sure your not alergic. Let him know we're coming for his man card if he doesn't buck up.

Wow. I don't know what to tell you. From the perspective of a guy who willingly licks, touches, gropes, fondles, inhales and any other form of touching of my wife's love canal, I really don't know.

From a very personal angle, I had your problem the other way around. I wouldn't get much touch; mouth, hand or otherwise. I just kept eating away at it so to speak, and one day I got something in return, and the friggin' smile hasn't left my face since. Let's say there's alot of touching going on now:)

We've of course talked about it since that day, and she said she's glad that in just shy of nine years I never asked her to. Besides, I was enjoying myself doing the pleasuring to her. The reasons for it involved a number of things, which all stem back to the fact that she was raised in a strict catholic home. Never saw her parents even hug. I'm serious. Sex IS procreation, not enjoyment. Affection? What's that?

It's hard to give you advice. On the one hand, you've waited a long time. Did he touch you at all in the first couple years? Then you got pregnant? Did he watch your first child come out? Most guys who aren't biology freaks might have a life-changing event right then and there.

On the other hand, talking about it is great, but you can't be accusatory. One anecdote from my experience is that once during that long spell I tried to crack a joke while she was going to town on a lollipop, and she got REAL defensive. Now that comment would be followed up by a wink.

One suggestion from a guy is get yourself all worked up before you have sex, then put his fingers right on your clitoris, and show him how it's done. If you're already worked up, and it doesn't take you long to orgasm, and he's the one to have brought you there, he'll for sure want to do that again.

Either he was sexually molested by a female adult when he was younger or if he's catholic he was raised that touching down there was dirty and disgusting , other then that I just dont know what to tell you it sounds insane for him to be carrying on this way , I agree with you he isnt gay but he does sound selfish in the sex department.

My 2nd husband wouldnt go down south either I thought it was me but found out he just hadnt had enough experience to know how to please me down there so after finding this out I trained him in what I liked and he's now perfect at it.

Maybe more talking?

maybe he is just uncomfortable!!!

i guess some people can feel weird about doing certain things in the bedroom and maybe that's one thing that he doesnt enjoy or gets grossed out about....

you should talk to him to find out WHY he doesnt touch you there, ask him if he would go to counselling with you.

just talk to him calmly without making him feel like you are attacking him and you shouldnt give him ultimatums...

deep down though, i think he just gets grossed out with that part of a womans body and it makes him unconfortable....

don't force him to do something he is not comfortable with... perhaps you used to be with someone who did all these things? every person is different, you should be content that you are getting any at all... if it bothers you that he won't do certain things than don't do them for him anymore... just be simple... he obviously does not like the dirty dirty stuff... let him be... and don't push or force him... by the way, you don't leave someone because you are different sexually... good grief, don't be so selfish...

Was he like this before you had kids? Some men don't like touching their women down below once they have kids. If it's not then he needs some professional help.

He's taking away all pleasure and making you feel like crap. maybe ask if its because you're pregnant? maybe he feels he may hurt the baby, or because your body may not be as thin as it once was? if so, hes shallow but it could be the answer.

do you shave? I know that's a silly question.. but maybe it's the hair if you don't shave...

Try shaving all your hair off...if you don't it's hot

or maybe it's a mental block .. he knows that there's a baby in there and he doesn't want to think about it when he's aroused? I saw that in a tv show once.. sorry for the bad answer..

it could be many things going on, i would talk to a counselor

or someone about what reallly going on. with three kids and

one on the way it something. he could be cheating.

I hate to tell you this but he treats you like a hooker.... they do not kiss their customers or let them touch them down there... they only allow breast contact.....he is very odd....