Should I leave my wife...because my step son destroyed my car and house in a drunken rage?

Do you own a belt?

Sounds like you need to step back and either put your wife above the car, or analyze your marriage.

Not that the wife's behavior in this case may be a tad overprotective, but when you joined this family, you became the father figure to this boy. It certainly won't improve him if the moment he cause trouble, that father figure chooses to divorce from the family, rather than try to resolve the issue.

Your stepson's actions sound like cries for help, and answering those cries with an outstretched palm will only make those cries louder.

You knew about this stepson going into the marriage, and it was obviously the worse in that better or worse vow. But wouldn't it be better to sit with your wife and stepson and try to improve the picture, rather than breaking it apart?

Well, the fact you keep repeating that these items are "yours", and not both you and your wife's, poses the real issue.

Are your or are you not married? If you are, then it's not "yours", sir. It's both you and your wife.

You need to deal with your stepson aside from making hurtful threats of divorce.

It does not sound like you have a close, intimate relationship with your wife. THAT should be your main and only focus, not material objects. You can buy another TV and repair your car, but how much thought, energy, focus and attention are you putting into your wife and marraige? Your wife's love, respect and marraige, you cannot buy or repair.

Think about it.

my husbands family had this issue but with their own child. He had a drunken party and ruined everything in the house. I think the stress from all the trouble he was getting into drove them to their divorce. The kid has now been in and out of jail for the last two years and is now on house arrest and probation for another year. take action now before it gets worse. how are his friends? maybe time to switch schools and make new ones. Maybe move him to his father? He must have some anger issues due to something - get to the bottom of it and see how it can be resolved. Your wife just wants to be the "good" parent and not be the disciplinary one, she needs to take control also. Make him pay you back for all the damages and pay for his actions, he has to start learning to be responsible.

Let you wife know that you are thinking this way and you don't want to live like this .. see what her response is. Definatley you all need to get in to counsling... sounds like for a number of reasons.

Thats alot of damage, make him pay for this in some way, yelling and leturing aren't going to work, so cgores, allowance, something... How old is this child?

This is undoutabley a very scary time in his life for some reason and you need to find out why.

try to Think Positive

No, you shouldn't leave your wife (IF you truly love her). You should however, call the police and press charges against your step-son. Don't let him think that type of behavior is acceptable.

Then, I'd suggest therapy. WHY in the world would your wife think that type of behavior is okay from her son??? He obviously has some serious anger issues.

You are not married to your stepson, but how your wife reacts to the problem and her willingness to correct the problem does directly affect your marriage.

Since the damage was done to your things, I am assuming that he was mad at you for some reason. Just drunken rage, he would have destroyed anything in his path.

What caused the issue? Sounds like more to the story........

If your wife won't listen, then maybe. Not because of an isolated insident though. but if she won't listen to reason at all, there is something else wrong with your marriage than a diabolical son. Don't divource her just because of her son though, that is wrong. Get him some counseling.

I wanted my step daughter out and I changed the locks on the door. She was 18 at the time so it was legal.

I wouldnt leaver her but make it very clear that the behavior needs to stop....talk to her, tell her exactly how you feel and see if you can work out some type of discipline plan or maybe even treatment for the drinking....good luck

wHAT do you mean she doesn't think it is a big deal....YES, it is a big deal.......don't allow your stepson to behave this way or your in big trouble.....Come on! what is wrong with your wife? She is not doing her son any favors by thinking "its not a big deal" Good luck, not sure if you should leave her but I can bet there are other things going on with her also. so sorry.