Confused with my marriage???

be faithful to your husband the heart is decitful and wicked evil

You think you're confused now. Wait till disater happens. All I can say from experience is feelings are feelings but committment is what really makes a relationship work. I did the same thing you did and it ended up in a 2 year separation and will probably be divorced before to long, heartache and a life now full of regrets. I realized to late that what I really wanted was my husband all along. If you are not sure how this guy feels about you what are you doing with him. Obviously your husband is sure of what he feels for you because he is still there for you. That's what true love is honey, someone who is there no matter what. Don't make the same mistake I made. You will live to regret it and sometimes there is no turning back. It's to late for me and I am so sad. I will never be the same again.

This new relationship cannot work. If this man truely loved you he would never have put you in the position of cheating on your husband.

And as for your love for your husband, how much can you really love him if you are spending time with another man.

You made a commitment to your husband when you said "I Do". Stop seeing the other man on weekends and sometimes once during the week. Go back to concentrating on your marriage with all your heart. Be a good wife and then, if you find you no longer love your husband and you can't forget the other man, leave your husband honestly and let him get on with his life. Give him the chance to find someone that only wants to be with him.

Good luck to you

What attracts you to this other man? Is it something you can look deeper and find in your husband? You have been married for a long time why would you go outside your marriage? If your marriage is not working you should communicate with your husband and see if you can't rekindle those lost feelings. The grass is never greener on the other side.If your husband is not abusive you should work on your marriage. Let the Fling go.. after 1 year you don't know how he feels about you that tells you that he doesn't want a commitment and he is only with you for one reason. Find a hobby to do on weekends, hang out with friends stop communicating with your boyfriend... Good Luck!!!

Just know, the troubles in your marriage will not go away if your energy is invested in this other guy. If by now this other guy as not mentioned anything about how he feels for you, indicates he feels nothing but getting some needs met from you as you are getting from him, otherwise he would have said different. Adding a third person to already troubled marriage can only add confusion. You need to stop seeing this guy, at least for a while, and focus on what it is you want. Base your decision without putting this other guy into it and maybe you can get some clarity about what it is you want. Best of luck to you!

This is easy. You are wrong! Point blank plain and simple you are wrong! You have been married for 10 years and you start talking to this guy and now you are going to possibly throw away 10 years of marriage over some dude you feel for? come on! Unless your husband is beating you, keeping you depressed or cheating on you you need to get your act together. Instead of falling for some other guy you need to figure out how to make your marriage work another 10 to 20 years. You are blessed and don't even know it. If there is something wrong with your marriage find out what it is and you and your husband work on it. Don't let some other guy come between 10 years of your life for a couple of seconds of passion. focus on your hubby.

First, your marriage is already gone if you are wanting this guy so much. What you are doing is using your husband and family as a safety net to fall back on if your relationship with the other guy doesn't work out.

Don't be cruel to your husband and family, all you are going to do is hurt them more and make yourself miserable if you stay home.

Get your own place before your husband and family find out, and unless they live in a closet, they will find out, and then explore your relationship with this person.

The best way to find out how he feels is simply ask him what he wants from the relationship. Then you will know how he feels without committing yourself.

You say you love your husband but yet you are cheating on him. That isn't love my dear. How would you feel if the tables were turned. Best thing to do is severe this extramarital relationship and move on along with your husband because nothing good will come out of your affair.

Both YOU and your husband need to get counseling and need to talk.

If you want your marriage to last with your husband, you need to cut off ALL TIES with this other man.

You are throwing away ten years of marriage being with another man. You need to think about your marriage vows again and what they mean.

Well the to start...you should have kept your legs shut to anyone other than your husband...you dont deserve him if you can do that to him. your a slut and i feel bad for your husband. How can you be confused???? break it off with the other guy, tell ur husband that you've been sleeping around like a whore and that you want to fix it, otherwise...tell ur husband that ur leaving...simple as that...no one should feel bad for you....you did this to yourself...your obviously a very weak person

You stated that this is a friend of both you and your hubby. I find that a little hard to believe. Friends don't screw other friend's wives. You sound as if you want your cake and the ability to eat it too. I say make a choice and let one of them go. If you can't do that, drop the bomb on your hubby so he at least has some idea that you're screwing around. You don't have to tell him who it's with, but at the very least, you can be honest with him.