My Father & mother ?

I am 12years 8 months old maybe you think i have not lived long enough to answer this question but i feel i already have great experience of life because of what my parents instill in me.

Love between parents & children is unconditional you should never be made to feel guilty for what your parents give you, whether it is love or material things. As children we do not ask to be brought into this world it is those that create us that must care for us & teach us the way of the world in the best possible way.

My parents show/ed(I add "ed" because my beloved mom recently passed away) me great love, respect not just for me but for others & the teachings for me to always respect others as i must respect myself. It does not matter what walk of life you come from if parents cannot give you this kind of teachings unconditionly then they are not worthy of children. I love my parents equally for everything they have so far given me... my life, my love, my respect, my knowledge! Never ever did i doubt anything my parents did/do for me I believe they know best. I return to them the love & respect... always.

As always i like the answer from Kassandra.. my dear friend my mom was also an Angel sent from heaven above, to where she has now returned.

I was such a pain in the **** growing up-it wasnt until I moved more than 1000 miles away did I ever realize how great my parents truly are. Now every day I make it a point to speak with them on the phone, tell them i LOVE them.

however, I may never be able to totally repay my parents for all they do

8/10 From Abu Hurayra from the Prophet (SAW) that he said, "The son can never repay his parent. Except that he finds him a slave, then buys him and sets him free." Saheeh, Irwaa (1747)

9/11 From Abu Buraidah that he was with Ibn Umar and a Yemeni man was making tawaaf of the House carrying his mother on his back saying, "I am her humble camel where her camel would have gotten frightened I will not"

Then he said, 'O Ibn Umar! Do you think that I have repaid her?' He said, 'no, not even a for a single moan that escaped her during child birth.'

Then Ibn Umar made tawaaf of the house, then came to the Station (of Abraham) and prayed two rak'ahs. Then he said, 'O ibn Abu Musa! Indeed every two rak'ahs expiate what came before them.' Saheeh Isnaad

10/13 From Abdullaah bin Umar who said, " A man came to the Prophet (SAW) to give him the bay'ah for hijrah, and he left his parents crying. So the Prophet said, 'return to your parents and make them laugh as you have made them cry'" Saheeh, at-Ta'leeq ar-Ragheeb (3/213)

Hey there Far Away,

I know too well what you are saying, but then again i have always know that my parents were great. Nothing that i could do would ever repay them.

Even now that i live far away from them, they still shower me with love and kindness and keep calling me long distance and coming over to the country that i live in at least every 2 month. All this so they could check on me and make sure that i do not need anything.

There is absolutely nothing that i wouldn't do for them, and i keep them in my prayers and my duaa every time.

May Allah bless all our parents and keep them healthy and safe and reward them for all they have done by accepting them in heaven. Ameen.

I was raised by a single mother and no matter how I tried to think of ways to repay her for all the sacrifice, the love, the affection, the security she's given and still giving me, I will never be able to give it all back to her.

Even as a child I do realize how fortunate I am to have such a loving mom but just like you, I understand more the "why's" I used to ask when I was younger after having kids of my own.

I thank God for sending me an angel whom I call "Mom"

I am much older than you. I am a grandparent now. I appreciate the fact that you respect your parents and acknowledge what they have done for you.

As far as repaying goes, no amount of material things can ever fully compensate them for their sacrifices. There are two things that you can do though. (1) Spend time with them. Make them feel good about themselves. Let them know you see them as role models and you want to be at least as good to your children as they were to you. Believe me this is the biggest reward a parent expects from his/her children. (2) Be a good parent for your children. Pass on family traditions and cultural heritage to them. Make them good human beings as you are.

This is how you can make your parents happy and possibly repay to a certain extent.

Great topic! thank you

I know how u exactly feel. Children never really get to understand their parents' feelings about them till they grow older and have kids. Even though I'm still pregnant, I already feel so much in love with my child and already thinking what to buy for him, how to raise him, how to make him happy and thinking yrs and yrs ahead... I feel I have to repay my mom back cuz she really suffered raising me and my siblings. I love my dad too but he did not suffer as much as my mom did. My mom was much more involved in our bringing up.

No matter what one can do, nothing in the world will be enough to make things up for them or repay them back.

I remember a story of a man in prophet Muhammad's PBUH time. He went to prophet PBUH and told him that he carried his aged mom for days for hajj and crossed countries carrying her and did everything she needed. He asked if he had repaid her back this way for raising him up when he was young and taking care of him. Prophet Muhammad PBUH said that no, everything he did is nothing comparing to one single contraction his mom experienced when giving birth to him. He also told him u did that to ur mom while u were wishing her death, but she did this and more to you and was wishing u life... I do not remember the exact hadith but that was the sum up of the story.

it's impossible to repay them back, i don't realy appreciate the idea of repaying back parents, because good parents shouldn't wait any reward from their children, but children should be very thankful to them, simply because they were the priority in their parents life for years and years, for parents, good parents, children always come first, since they are borned, they forget their own desires and needs, and they start thinking of those new creatures! when I was child, everytime we went to do shopping, my mother said: "today, i will buy something for me!", at the end of the day, we come back home with bags of children clothes, nothing for ladies!I remember the days when mom was very sick, and inspite of her weakness, she woke up everyday at 7am to make breakfast for us, and to make sure that we are well dressed, I remember when my father sold his new mobile to but a dress i loved! those are only small things, that we should always think about, and remind our parents of, just to make them feel that we are very thankful, and that what they did was really important for us!

I don't really do that, but i will start doing this, i will start reviwing my relationship with my great parents, especially mom, because I was a lit rude with her those last few months

I'm not old enough, I'm only 20 but GOD I have always loved them till we separated (study purposes), my love for them just grew bigger and bigger by living farther.

I had an accident 2 years ago and I almost died, speaking of what they did to me back then would NEVER describe how caring, loving and AMAZING they were, and they always Are...

I LOVE them to death, May Allah swt bless them and reunite us in the Firdaws...I HOPE...and May the almighty bless your parents too !!...and reward those GREAT people for what they do for us everyday..

Yeah I don't buy the "just sounds right" idea either and I don't think there is any phonetic advantage. It's possible that it could be the same convention that says "ladies first" but that's just a guess really.

i will tell u something

some girls are saying that they will stay at home and be a house wife..didnt they think how many time thier parents deprived (7aramo anfeshom) from new clothes expensive going out , ...for paying the money of thier educating (sanwya 3ama ,colloge)

and some men be selfish and force thier wives to sit at home without work ....

i know many ppl will thumb me down but its my opinion and i will not change it becasue wa7ed mesh 3agboo el kalam dah