I get nightmares , please help me ... Why is happening to me ?

just do not care for them... they have no meaning...

if you stop thinking about them... there would not be any nightmare anymore...

i am not joking please consider this seriously...

my opinion is that something is "really" bothering you. To determine if it has anything to do with your relationship or with your or his parents you'll have to check out what is happening to you during the day. Some dreams happen when mixed with other things that are happening during the day. All I can tell is that you are concerned or worried about something. If you're not worried about your relationship then you can discount that and concentrate on what other input you're haivng during the day. Maybe you heard about an accident or heard something on the news or saw a scary tv program or movie that has stuck with you (and you didn't say so we don't know). Sometimes there are subliminal messages or commercials that our eyes view while we're doing other things in the same room where the tv is on and we don't even know that they have gotten into our subconscious. I've seen lots of those commercials about scary and weird shows that will be coming on, especially the ones for Halloween. Tell yourself that what you saw was fake, and when those dreams come again, well, you are able to control your dreams, so just mentally dismiss them, know it's Halloween, and talk yourself into a sweet dream.

you say your guy loves you, his and your family are ok with the marriage, and there is no problem with getting married.

How about you, are you sure your ready? Do you feel presured in any way? Are there trust issues with mom to be?, or is she a person you've decided you can put up with? Is anyone making or suggesting plans about the wedding your not happy with? Are your future in-laws, people you can be close with?

As for dad, do you feel particularly closer to your dad, do you feel he'll be sadened that he might miss you?, or that you might some what feel your deserting him? Do you feel you might miss him a lot, or feel insecure about being without him in the same home? Will you be moving futher away from him or/and the family? Just some questions, that might be playing on your subconscious. Otherwise you may just be suffering from pre marital jitters. (just nervousness)

Something is bugging you, either consciously or subconsciously. Maybe it's an actual thing that's happening now, maybe it's a past event that you feel guilty or angry about, or maybe it's something that you fear happening later. Maybe it relates to your current boyfriend, or maybe it's another issue entirely, or maybe it's some combination of issues.

Whatever it is, you're at least partially (and maybe entirely) sublimating it in your conscious mind. You're not thinking about it and dealing with it as directly as you need to be, so your brain is trying to find a way to 'clear' the issue by bringing it to your attention, in order to somehow relieve the pressure created by this issue, whatever it is. If you can't or won't worry about it in the daytime, your brain is going to make sure that you worry about it at night, until you figure out what's going on, confront it directly, and turn it into 'finished business'.

If you would like to discuss further on a private basis, OK to e-mail me personally at maestrojce at yahoo dot c o m.

Good luck,

--jonathan elliott

According to Jung, nightmares are not exactly about what you see in the dream. They are symbolic, of other issues, which really need to be resolved, dreaming of murder, for example, is probably a symbolic message that something is wrong, in your life, not about murder, but personal issues in your relationships or a situation in your life. Dreams monitor our personal and psychological progress. They are telling you what you need to do, or what is happening at the moment. Get a good dream dictionary, and start analysing your dreams, especially your nightmares. Pamela Ball's "10,000 Dreams Interpreted" is a good, basic dream dictionary.

its more then lickly stress no mater how small you may think it is also did you have a change in eating? i know for me seafood at night gives me crazy dreams. when i had major strees (a deployment or my daughter being in the nicu) ihad such bad dreams i ended up getting innsomneia then i learned to just breath in and out listen to chamber music in a nice hot tub with lavander . also sipping on chaminile tea helped and knowing that having a good cry is ok i hope ive helped

Dreams are developed from thoughts in your mind. These nightmares about your man leaving you are from thoughts you've had about him leaving you or playing you. Perhaps you should break up with him.....or u should trust him and stop thinking about such things

You might want to try taking your mind off a lot of stress. You can go on a vaction or just try to relax. A lot of the times when you are not satasfied your brain enduces different signels related to your stress.

Take it easy!!!

Don't worry. Dreams are the opposite in real life. Simply pray for them.

Maybe your nigthmares are related to your fears. You should discuss your fears with close ones such as good friends or family to see what bugs you. You need then to let go, we can influence our futur but we can't avoid everything neither...

last night i had 3 nightmares..my friend told me once that when she sleeps on her back she gets them..i said she was full of it..well each time i woke from the nightmare i was on my back!