I'm 23, and going thru divorce.I feel so horrible!!!?

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I have been through this before. I am the same age as you and my husband and I have been married for three years and together for five. We have been separated a couple of times in the past as well.Our marriage began to get better when we made a promise that there was never anymore separation. Like you, we couldn't live together or apart. But, with living apart not being an option, it forced us to deal with our issues realisticly. We were forced to communicate and work things out between each other. We came up with the conclusion that there is something very strong in our relationship that is not allowing us to stay apart and that is what we would focus on. Don't dwell on things that you cannot change and adjust those that you can. Compromising is a must when two people from different backgrounds decide to spend the rest of their lives together. I encourage you to asses your problems and determine if those things are worth giving up the man you love, the life you are used to living with him and your families' happiness for. If it is then, continue on your path to divorce, but if you are having second thoughts, then you need to talk to your husband before it is too late!! You guys should pray together and cry together if it is necessary!! Whatever it takes to save your family. The first seven years are the hardest, so I am told, and then it gets smoother. But, with God and an understanding between the two of you things can begin to go smoothly sooner than that. I wish you all the best.

What do you mean you cant live without him? Meaning money or you love him?? You are young, and you have many good years ahead of you. You need to think about your life and the life you are setting for your kids, are they living in an healthy situation? One thing I can tell you is, stop the game. If you can live with him than make it work, but dont put your kids through that kind of life style. WE BROKE UP, NO BACK TOGETHER, its just not right. Make up your mind once and for all, and make it your final answer.

I give my answer based on personal experience. I met my husband when i was 16. We had our first kid when I was 18 - we married when I was 21 - we had our 2nd kid when i was 22. I filed for divorce when our second son was 6 weeks old. we got back together a year later. we never finalized our divorce. we stayed together about another 6 yrs. we are now finally / really divorced. I can only say - i understand the cannot live together and cannot live apart.... counseling, friends, and family got me through it..

YOU HAVE TO DECIDE IF IT IS REALLY OVER it is not fair for the kids to have flip flop in and out... stability (even if not together) is better.

If I had this situation? If my spouse and I couldn't live together, I'd stop fooling myself and get on with my life because the longer you keep going back and forth on this, the harder it is. You keep building up hope and then dashing it again....you are going through a break up time and time again. That's not healthy for you, for your spouse, or your kids. There is nothing to say you and your spouse can't be friends....in fact, you should be for the kids' sake.

It may look like you can't "live without him" now, but believe me, you can. Just take one day at a time. Get legal advice, emotional counseling, and start making plans to either move out or have him move out. It will get easier once you start to make your plans.

I have an annulled marriage and I know how you must be feeling now. First, I don't agree with divorce or annulments because as a Christian, there are only two grounds for this: adultery and/or death. In my case, my husband had repeatedly gone away with mistresses, had children with them, abandoned as several times without financial support. I put up with these episodes for ten years, before i finally decided to go to a lawyer. During the ten years, I made it a point to do my best as a wife, to love him, and everything i can do to keep him. Still, there was no repentant in his heart. So i resorted to annulment. In your case, I advise you to dialogue with your

husband before a psychiatrist, get counselling, and try praying. Remember, you have children and they will be so wounded like you. Exert an effort to win him first before you decide on ending your marriage. It is not easy to be a single parent. God bless you.

Divorce is awful, and there is nothing fun or nice about it. Your feelings are totally normal. Go to marriage counseling, and seek out your friends and family for additional support because you will need it. This time might be difficult, but it will pass. This is only temporary. Use it as a time to reflect on things you did and how you would do them differently in the future. You need to take care of yourself not just for you, but for your children's sake. When you put yourself first, you will be a better parent to your children as well. God bless!

Have you two thought about counseling? Time will heal all wounds. If you split you need to give each other time apart and not have contact except for the kids and see how things go that way. You can love someone with all your heart but that doesn't mean that the two of you should be together.

How are your finances? Can you make it on your own as far as money? You are young, I assume he is too. You got together when you was 18? He's not sure what he wants...maybe you dont, and dont realize it. Take some time off, on your own. If it's meant to be, he'll be back. I know it's hard! But would you rather know for sure, or live a lie?. Feel free to IM me if you want, or email.

First of all my heart does go out to you got married and had

two children because you were in love with your husband but now you realize that you two can not get along but the children are here to stay. Im not gonna say your to young but you grew up to fast and didnt have the chance to figure out what you wanted to do with your life. The only way you can make it is to let him go in your heart and god will deal with the rest.

best of luck

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I very just about exceeded out once walking homestead after i ought to had espresso on an empty stomacy... I hate that feeling! Drink a lot of water and eat some sturdy nutrition. Bread seems to assist me the most (perchance it soaks up the espresso?). you could also go with to take a Tums or some thing to neutralize all of that acid, too.