Im Bisexual and like my friend... how do i tell him(we're boys)?

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Im bisexual and i really like my best friend, but i dont know for sure if hes gay or bi.We've been friends for 2 years and were best friends but also theres a small problem, i moved to the u.s.a when i was 5 and came to venezuela,south america, 5 years later. i knew i was bi in the u.s.a but here if youre gay youre pretty much thrown away from society. but still, hes given me small hints(i think) for ex. i went to his house once and we were whatching a soccer game and, maybe he was joking, he nibbled my ear, since i thought he was joking i was pretty tense but one day he went to my house and i casually asked him what that was about and he denied everything! Now(im in seventh grade) i told him i liked a girl and he seemed to avoid the subject, i also told the girl i liked her (shes my best friend as a girl) because i knew shed say no..... but its all very confusing i dont know why he denied it and i dont know what to do, i really like him and its different here. Help?

Update:

Hes also done a bunch of other things like get on top of me, i dont know if its playing, one time he even kissed me, i dont know what to do, but my instincts tell me to be honest to him...

Becca P · Accepted Answer

i wouldn't do that.

Anonymous · Answer

What you could try with your closest friend is explain to her you saw a show or something, and you dont understand why people reacted to this one girl for being bi or gay. Explain to her that you dont understand why people are judged and think it is sad. See what her reaction is. You do not have to come out right at that point. Unfortunately due to how people are not only in high school, but in this society all together, it is a hard thing to come out and feel comfortable. Most of the time people get weirded out because they think right away you might be fantasizing about them, or might try something with them. So you dont go crazy I would focus on getting your thoughts on the situation out there, let people know they shouldnt judge others, and that you are not prejudice. Then just go from there. When the time is right, you will know, you know?

Lucky1234 · Answer

I would tell him, seriously, that you are bi. Then I would ask him, straight up, if he is...

If he is then I think you should tell him that you like him.

And if he isn't I think you should probably let it go, because you don;t want to freak him out and make you relationship all awkward and weird.

But from the sounds of it, I would bet that he is gay, he is probably doing those things to find out how you would react. And passing them off as a joke because he is just as unsure about you.

bbcthatsme15 · Answer

I dont know what to say but just ask out front...not in front of everyone but in private...if he likes other boys and try to sound understanding.  Be sure that you want others to know your sexuality or dont do anything about it.  If he is your friend, a real friend, he will understand even if he doesnt like you that way.  
Stay strong even if you are shot down and fight the power!

Xie Xie Niii · Answer

Casually mention that you think you might be bisexual, and then wait for a response. You don't have to tell him that you like him right away. Just start with "coming out". He might even start to get attracted to you more after you tell him you are bisexual.

Anonymous · Answer

just sit him down and tell him how you feel about him. thats the only way you will ever know if it will ever work out. hope this helps. good luck.

Pentagram · Answer

UH, I would try to be at least 99.8 percent sure he is bi or gay....

dafinessricans · Answer

YOU SHOULD JUST GO TO HIM AND ASK HIM STRAIGHT OUT IF HE'S YOUR FRIEND WEATHER HES GAY OR NOT HE WILL STILL ACCEPT YOU

Anonymous · Answer

you need to be sensitive and be honest with him - but accept your friendship may not outlive it.

sstooc2001 · Answer

Follow your instinct.....

Anonymous · Answer

Wow......

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