Do people who say they "accept gays" really think that GLBT people are looking for their approval?

it is the same reason people say I AM NOT RACIST! They need to say it outloud so that they start to believe it themselves.... It is the same reason that you keep asking the same questions over and over again here... searching for answers....

I don't think it is a controlling thing at all. I suspect it is really just a show of support. I am sure for many straights it is an awkward situation and they do not know the best way to handle the issue. I think that when people say they accept gays, they usually mean that they understand the issue and that they have no problems with people being gay.

I want complete acceptance, equal rights, no more pressure to change or hide put on teens. There are quite a few straight ally organizations where I live. One straight owned company actually produced anti-hate TV commercials featuring local gays citizens called "Neighbors You Know". Community donations paid to air them on our local TV channels.

I don't need praise or pity. Acceptance. Equal Rights. A place at the table. GLBT people are no better or no worse than anyone else. Check out one of the TV ads at the site below:

I think its the staring of buliding a trust relationship or friendship. I won't know how to answer the question of "approval"

One of my guy friends came out and said "I'm Gay" and I don't really see the problem behind that. I thanked him for actually trusting and disclosing the information to me. I usually don't ask ppl those personal issues b/c its not my business to be nosy if someone does not want to talk about something they are not comfortable with.

Sadly... some GLBT think they DO need this kind of approval. ...in much the same way people who feel uncool think they need the approval of those who seem more cool... etc.

Of course we don't. But I suppose any majority is predisposed to pass judgement on a contrasting minority.

As for what straight people really think... thankfully that will remain a mystery to me. But I accept straights and consider myself to be straight friendly.

I am sure that many people do feel like we need and/or seek their approval. I basically just chock it up to the ignorance of some people or possibly their lack of education on the topic at hand. Truth is that people who seek approval typically are seeking justification, if not for others than for themselves. People like that need to come to terms with their own insecurities. I on the other hand know what I am and I embrace it. I don't seek approval from anyone. I don't need it. These people do not pay my bills, sleep in my bed, or raise my children so their approval or disapproval means nothing to me!

If this is the worst problem you have and the most bigotry you come up against, count yourself lucky and move on.

And lets be honest, most of the young gays coming up are looking for approval. They have been rejected alot and often by their own families.

Well some do actually think that way, but then again, there are those who simply don't have the vocabulary to say they "Support" gays/lesbians/bisexuals/transgenders.

Don't take it personally, just pity their limited lexicon.

I don't think the majority of those who say that actually believe we are looking for their approval. They mean that they support us and/or simply have no issue with us.

My three best friends are gay, so obviously I accept gay people. I don't go parading it around however because I know that they don't need my approval. If you don't "approve" of them, they wouldn't want to associate with you anyway.

i am a straight person. i have many straight friends, many old friends, many young friends, rich friends, poor friends, fat and thin friends - i also have many gay friends and some lesbian friends as well. ii accept all of them for who they are -although i do note that they are different than I and I different than them in many ways. they also accept me for my differences. in most relationships and interactions ACCEPTANCE is seen as a positive thing. acceptance is kind of a requirement in relationships although approval is not. and they are not synonomous.

i am continually amazed that people can find fault with every little nuance and dig deep to find the negative in a positive. be grateful that anyone finds whatever they do acceptable about you whether it has anything to do with your sexuality or not!!

I don;t think that I need anyone's approval. I think it would be better if they were to say that they support us, becuase for them to say that they "accept" us makes it seem like it's an insane idea that we might be "accepted" by society, which makes me feel rather like an outcast. It is rather annyoing...